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simplemind is offline simplemind Post #1  May 6,2009, 10:14pm
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Went to a ball game tonight, to watch the game and have a hot dog n beer with friends. There was a line of men behind us, who talked Non-stop. And I do mean, the entire time we were in those seats (we finally found somewhere else to sit).


Now, a comment on so & so's catch, or last year's stats compared to this for such n sucha pitcher, or little personal catchups are no big deal to me (except maybe during a really tight play)--but these guys never for a moment shut up.


I go to the parkto see the game. I want to watch it, and share it with friends--not spend the night unable to tune out the endless stuff behind me.


Had me thinking on the way home about someone I dated recently, who also talked through the game. It was by no means a first date, and we were past the initial "getting to know you" stage--but he talked, a lot. At first I tried to be polite and responded, then thought I might be reinforcing it by answering and was less responsive, one time thought to redirect him by asking him about a play we'd just seen (well, I saw it, but he was busy talking).Couldn't tell you by the end of the game what'd happened down on the field.


My favorite ballgame dates are the guys who like the game and we watch it together! We can laugh at the kisscam, argue the finer points of strategy, or talk about who might be coming up from the minors--but all in all, we're there for the game.


How about you? Talking during the game a charming date because they're so into you, or a dealbreaker?
 
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Maybe not a dealbreaker, but definitely a black mark! With baseball, of course, there is plenty of time between innings, or when a new pitcher is warming up, or whatever to talk. There is simply no reason for chitchat when someone is at the plate!


Did you say anything to the guys behind you, or just give them the evil eye?


Worse, though, is someone who talks during a movie (or is a loud popcorn chewer...haha).
 
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I agree with neardc, someone who talks through a movie, or keeps asking me what this and that means, and how the movie ends (as if I know) does make me uncomfortable. Sometimes they're just like that during the movies. Sometimes it's a sign of things to come.


As for sports, if my teams are on TV (Dolphins, Florida Gators, Eagles, White Sox) I would really prefer that my date not talk through the entire game. But if we're at a sports bar, or at the park itself, it would be hard for me to issue a gag order on her when everyone aroundus is being just as annoying. I usually let my dates know ahead of time if we're going to see one of my teams play, and hopefully she's sensible enough to understand that I want to concentrate on the game. It would take a lot for me to be really distracted, and if that were the case I may still date her, but I probably wouldn't take her with me to the sports bar or the stadium with me, lol.
 
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I agree with you that the constant chatter during a ballgame can be a real turn off. All the commentary can wait until the game is over. As withmovies, I paid to see the movie or ball game, not tolisten to what other people have to say. I remember one girl I dated made the comment after the date that this was the first time she had gone to the movies with a date that she was not fighting off her date. She said she actually enjoyed the date as she got to see the moviefor a change. Boy did my ego go up!


I also have a problem with those people who whip out their cellphones during a ball game or movie. The people that do this for some reason think they need to yell into the phone which means I have to listen to their oh so unimportant conversations.
 
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neardc, one of my friends did comment to the guy behind her that she couldn't hear the overhead PA (which was Very loud), and could he pipe it down a bit? He smiled, but didn't catch on--kept on talking about nursing homes, his kids, his job. To give a clearer picture of last night, they were a row of eight men, and every single one of them was talking.


We decided that rather than start a fight with strangers and spoil their night, too, we'd relocate. Was a full park, but we found decent seats, so it ended up okay. Later on, thought it pretty funny that us four women had to ask the guys to pipe down at a ballgame...


And hey, we won! How bad could it be?
 
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Guys, that is one of my pet peeves, too--the movie chatterer. At a ballgame, things are loud, and people do talk periodically (there are few times that dead silence reigns--like the other night when Rick Ankiel took a header and didnt' get up).


But in a movie theater, there are what, a hundred?, people all there to experience something in their own way--and one voice can carry a long way. Is kind of oblivious to what others' rights might be, IMO. Kind of like the cellphoner--what I want to do is more important than anything anybody else might experience. Here's your red flag--ya wanna hold it, or carry it out with you?
 
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I went to a Yankee-Indians playoff game with my dad several years ago. The idiots behind me spent the entire game talking loudly with some friends in the upper deck on their cell phones (the annoying chirping walkie-talkie kind that I so badly wanted to shove up their keisters). They were discussing where to go after the game- aaaargggh!!!! Then the beer vendor parked himself right in front of us for an entire inning, completely blocking our view so he could sell dixie cups of warm flat beer for $7. Then there was the constant stream of people getting up to buy their $5 hotdog in the middle of an at-bat.


My conclusion: people go to the ballpark primarily to eat overpriced bad food and chat on the phone. They probably TIVO the game so they can watch it when they get home!
 
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musmusculus,608341 wrote :


I went to a Yankee-Indians playoff game with my dad several years ago. The idiots behind me spent the entire game talking loudly with some friends in the upper deck on their cell phones (the annoying chirping walkie-talkie kind that I so badly wanted to shove up their keisters). They were discussing where to go after the game- aaaargggh!!!! Then the beer vendor parked himself right in front of us for an entire inning, completely blocking our view so he could sell dixie cups of warm flat beer for $7. Then there was the constant stream of people getting up to buy their $5 hotdog in the middle of an at-bat.


My conclusion: people go to the ballpark primarily to eat overpriced bad food and chat on the phone. They probably TIVO the game so they can watch it when they get home!


Laughed so loud, I scared off the katz!


Oh, mmc, not only do I love your avatar, but I think you're pretty awesome, too! LOLOL! I think I've been to that game, only mebbe in StL, Detroit, Seattle, Denver, Atlanta, Chicago...? [edit: now that I think about it, and it was only one visit, the Reds fans were a lot quieter...but maybe they had a reason to be?]


But at a playoffs game, can't believe they didn't get keelhauled by some of the other fans around them. That's a whole different order of magnitude.


Those walkie-talkie things are even worse than cells--not only do you gotta hear what the one near you is saying, but you're stuck with his buddy's eryudite commentary, too.


(and "keisters"--oh, thank you--I haven't heard that in years! Thx for the little connection with home.)
 
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tbesq,608176 wrote :

As for sports, if my teams are on TV (Dolphins, Florida Gators, Eagles, White Sox) I would really prefer that my date not talk through the entire game.
 
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Well, talking at at Cubs game might be understood.... ;-p
 
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