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Asiaticbabe is offline Asiaticbabe Post #1  April 23,2009, 8:51pm
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Met a guy who seems to be able to talk spontaneously. Everything seems great. Progressed to OC within 2 days, made plans to meet up, etc.





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1) He closed me on EH after we got to messenger, without consulting me first. Reason given by him on messenger: I don't need to check EH to talk to you.





2) On messenger, he insists I call him instead of he calls me if he feels like doing voice. I am curious why it matters who calls who. Why type: let's talk, calll me. (a few times this happened)





3) I told him I have new pics up on EH, he asked me to send the pics on messenger.





4) I was on busy mode on messenger, he puts his custom messsage as: I'm not here for your entertainment. When I asked him if that msg was for me, he said no. Fine. But then when I was on available mode (free) and I msged him asking him what he was up to, he didn't reply. I waited for an hour and had to go out, telling him: gtg, have a great evening (thinking he must be busy). He left a note: You left just like that? I was waiting to talk to you.





I would like your opinion. Does this sound like he has an ego problem or am I reading this wrong? Are these warning signs that this guy might be a control freak? Is he indicating that he is expecting me to be all eager and desperate to chase him? I did make the effort to msg him as soon as I was free, asking him what he was up to. Did I make a mistake? Should I have just typed: Ok, am free. let's talk?
 
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he sounds like a weird guy....I dont IM though...
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #3  April 23,2009, 9:35pm
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ugh sounds like a game player control freak





sounds like he wants to see if you will play along
 
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Asia,


Sounds weird andfrom what you shared seems to be a control freak and signs of an online serial dater!
 
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sounds strange. parts of it aren't strange, e.g. closing out someone you're talking to off of eh. but otherwise it's weird.
 
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While it may be more difficult for him to find your eharmony profile once he closed you...there seems to be a lot of control type issues involved here.


Just seems wishy washy to me...hot cold type personality. Those type of people are hard to please.


Other than liking feeling in control...I doubt he knows what he wants.
 
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gr8galmv is offline gr8galmv Post #7  April 23,2009, 10:50pm
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Sounds strange. When I met someone great on EH I would never close them out. In fact, the only one I have open on my EH account is my boyfriend of six months I met there. I never had the heart to ever close and neither did he. But anyhow, his behavior is just interesting. At the least, you have some incompatible communication styles which doesn't bode well for a beginning relationship. Anyhow, I'm not in to the IM thing...it is either the phone where we can hear each others voices or in person. I think the IM thing shows a low level of commitment. A man can only have one phone conversation at a time with someone and it requires a fairly good amount of concentration and effort. A man can IM many people at one time without any level of concentration.
 
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Thanks, good folks. We have just agreed it is a better idea to bid farewell. We were doing yahoo beacause I am across the pacific pond so a dinner date isn't that easy to arrange. His fault though, he can't swim well. (winks)
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #9  April 24,2009, 10:13am
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Asiaticbabe,591548 wrote :

Thanks, good folks. We have just agreed it is a better idea to bid farewell. We were doing yahoo beacause I am across the pacific pond so a dinner date isn't that easy to arrange. His fault though, he can't swim well. (winks)
Cute lol


All the best to you
 
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angelofmerci is offline angelofmerci Post #10  April 24,2009, 3:01pm
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This guy definitely is a player. I would be willing to be youare not the only girl is pulling this trick on. I would run not walk away from this loser. Good Luck
 
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