Do our romantic pasts determine our romantic PATHS?


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angelofmerci is offline angelofmerci Post #11  April 24,2009, 9:23am
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I know after my divorce that the girls I was looking at to date were 180 degrees opposite of my ex. I ended up marrying a girl that was infact just the opposite of my exwhich has led to a much more satisfying relationship inalmost all areas.
 
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Ingytravel,589358 wrote :

With just regards to this article...


I think it has to do with the age group I am in ...Being 40...the probability of finding someone who has never been married, is going to be pretty low..


Finding someone who is divorced once, is the highest number...The older my age range of the men I select...then I would maybe run in to someone being divorced twice....as well as men who are maybe 50 and over (I personally don't go more than 10yrs) then you are going to run into possibly being a widower...


Switch that from a man to a woman over 50..the chances are much higer being a widow (since women tend to go for men older than them)....


I also do not have any children...so am not in situations where I am meeting men at school functions, daycare, parks, orevents/activities that 'families' would do...


That's where EH is fantastic for me,besides my job and my church/mission work, and regularactivities


So, for me,I'm not sure if it has anything to do with 'being drawn to" as it is with statistics and prbability in that regard...
(Ingytravel.... more than 10 yrs? Do month's count? 10 years and a couple of months, ok? - sorry, off topic for a sec)


My answer is NO. It better NOT !


(what a scary thought)
 
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I think that it shouldn't matter but it does lead to uncertainty/ doubt when the pasts are different. I live with my boyfriend of 9 months.. from the start we were inseperable. He has been in 2 long term (4 yrs each)live-in relationships and is 14 yrs older than me. I haven't been in a real long term intimate relationship that wasn't long distance.


To say the least it has had it's squabbles, all which braught us closer. Although he talks about growing old with me, I still don't want to be the "live-in girlfriend" who is good enough to have & hold but not fully commit to & marry. On that same note, I can see why he'd be skiddish that I'd get ancy with him & leave him for a younger, more all around "active" individual. I have suddenly ended relationships in the past when i saw it was pointless to continue. He is definitely my opposite- my balance- and I think I am his joy.


That said, once I moved in, what will compell him to want to marry me? Doesn't he already have what he wants? His past pattern honestly scares me and makes me feel like I am special & great until he decides he wants something else, like the 2 women who left him decided when they left.
 
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