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Beware of the five things that can sabotage an otherwise promising partnership.
- April 21st, 2009, 06:18 pm
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Hmmmm.... pretty good summary. I can see some of those in me and some in the woman from my last relationship. It's rarely just one-sided.


The real killer is the dishonesty thing. Being lied to hurts worse than almost anything I can imagine. I would rather be told to "get lost," or "you're ugly, or "I've met someone else" than to be lied to and strung along. Sometimes the reasons are innocent in that one or the other just doesn't want to hurt the other person and is trying to find a way to end it and in the process tells a few lies. Sometimes there are people (men and women) who just live by deception.


Either way, a lie is a lie and it kills intimacy and trust.
- April 21st, 2009, 06:18 pm
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Getting a bit tired of reading '5 reasons', '6 tips', '9 things to remember', '4 things to say' .... Is this the only imaginative things the writers for eharmony can put together?


I'm really a pretty positive guy and want to lend a hand, so here's some tips for you on how to write a better article:


1) Come up with a good story. If you don't have one, find one. Tip sheets are lazy writing and are used more and more to simply fill space in an otherwise empty publication. Try having writers use more personal anecdote.


2) Content. Have some.


3) Answer questions that people really do ask.


4) Less assembly line writing. Find more writers. Pay more money to good ones, less to bad ones.


5) Don't hire writers that have gone to university to learn to write. Them kant right so goud.





- April 22nd, 2009, 09:21 am
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After reading the article twice, I kept asking myself: "IN ANY RELATIONSHIP WHO IS THE GREATER LIAR---THE MAN OR THE WOMAN?"


All 5 reasons described here are valid. But the one issue that wasn't covered was the question: "DO I REALLY WANT TO GET SERIOUS WITH THIS WOMAN (OR MAN)---or attempt to keep a good friendship with nothing more?"


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- April 22nd, 2009, 09:30 am
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Lying, even about small things, leaves a relationship without a foundation. Who is the person you are trying to be intimate with?Sometimes they don't even know who they are because lying has become such apart of definging themselves.
- April 24th, 2009, 06:39 pm
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Ivan wrote :

Getting a bit tired of reading '5 reasons', '6 tips', '9 things to remember', '4 things to say' .... Is this the only imaginative things the writers for eharmony can put together?


I'm really a pretty positive guy and want to lend a hand, so here's some tips for you on how to write a better article:


1) Come up with a good story. If you don't have one, find one. Tip sheets are lazy writing and are used more and more to simply fill space in an otherwise empty publication. Try having writers use more personal anecdote.


2) Content. Have some.


3) Answer questions that people really do ask.


4) Less assembly line writing. Find more writers. Pay more money to good ones, less to bad ones.


5) Don't hire writers that have gone to university to learn to write. Them kant right so goud.




Completely right on.


Time for more imaginative journalism.
- April 25th, 2009, 04:55 pm
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excellent & to the point .. dominating ,demanding &/or demeaning all destroy
- April 26th, 2009, 06:24 am
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This is so true and very practical advice! "Must follow" guide-lines.
- April 26th, 2009, 07:27 am
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These maybe good reasons why a relationship may go sour..Crazy world out there I my self like a balance an expect a empathy given yes we all not perfect. If you really did your home work you'd find Drug influence like alcohol, violence, sexual promiscuous besides financial concerns would have been up there on the list.


I agree to " IHateUsersName" respectfully Ivan in the comments, especially the use of anecdote's ..


My final message its gone bad because it's to sterile. clinical.
- April 26th, 2009, 02:40 pm
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I'm probably walking into a ko punch to the chin but...talk to me about having sex "too early" in the relationshipship and how to know when
- July 20th, 2009, 11:35 am
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