Finding Love: Telling Lust from Love

Finding Love: Telling Lust from Love

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Finding Love: Telling Lust from Love


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greg3070 is offline greg3070 Post #21  March 12,2011, 6:39pm
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When_I_See_You_Smile wrote :
Dev,

Thanks for sharing. Could you do us a favor, though, and break your post into paragraphs? It's a little difficult to read.

I really like the question that you're asking: How does a man know, if a woman is in love with him?

What do you think, guys?

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I think Dev is onto something. That initial draw to a woman that isn't sexual. I felt the same thing with my soon to be wife. Could it be god is showing us this person is also our friend or partner? I don't know, but when it happens it is the oddest and greatest feeling. When it's time for intimacy to kick in, it's like no other. That is love I think. At least in my life's experience.
 
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Love is about giving whereas lust is about taking.
Love is selfless whereas lust is selfish.

Do not have sex with whom you do not love.
And if you do, don't love who you have sex with because when lust is over, everything is over and it's when every problem starts.

Lust will eventually go to dust.

Only true love last.
 
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Who wrote this article? A man? I can't believe that anyone thinks that lust is an emotion. Lust is not an emotion - it's a physical desire. Between love and lust, only love is an emotion, one felt in the heart.

Also, lust may be what initially draws a man to a woman, but it's not necessarily what draws a woman to a man. Sometimes that is the case, but a lot of the time a woman needs to feel a mental, intellectual connection or attraction for a man before love OR lust occur.

In my experience, if lust is the first reaction I have to a man, that's normally not a good sign. There's no guarantee we'll have an intellectual connection, much less an emotional one. However, if we start off with an intellectual one, that can quickly develop into love OR lust, and there's no telling in which order it happens.

It could stay lust forever and never turn into love, or it could become love and never become lust. It's just not as simple as this article tries to claim, at least not for a woman.

But then, we all knew already that women are more complex than men, didn't we?
 
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Lust is a chemical attraction. You haven't touched or communicated with that person in any way. Love comes when you talk to that person, get to know that person, and realize that you are capable of commiting to a relationship with that person. It cuts out much confusion when a person acts on the latter first.
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I think with women the interpretation of what is happening is wrong. I believe it is just as physical for women, but the chemistry takes over our bodies differently than it does men; we start thinking about it too much, and that turns it into some kind of emotional.connection, when it is really just a hot...guy and his level of testosterone....: ).
 
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Swashbuckler wrote :
What bothered me about this article was not only the statement someone else didn't like about lust being the one way to start a relationship, but also the implication that lust goes away once love comes along. I'll happily grant that love is stronger than lust, but in a fully realized relationship, lust should do more than "maybe overlap" with love. I still feel a strong physical attraction for my Love, and hope i always do. I don't think we should promote the myth that we have to choose between love and lust, or settle for one over the other. I agree we should be aware of what we are feeling, but let's allow for the possibility that we can fall in love with someone we lusted for early on, and continue to lust for that person long after love comes into play.
I agree with you, however, most people allow the lust to get the best of em.
 
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shenjinpin wrote :
Love is about giving whereas lust is about taking.
Love is selfless whereas lust is selfish.

Do not have sex with whom you do not love.
And if you do, don't love who you have sex with because when lust is over, everything is over and it's when every problem starts.

Lust will eventually go to dust.

Only true love last.
I think love can die and be killed.
 
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Gin920 is offline Gin920 Post #28  October 21,2011, 1:46pm
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If a man (in the case of women) is not willing to invest in you, with his time, his attention and his money to an extent you can be sure it is selfish lust, not love. When one is willing to invest in you the things he values most, you can be pretty sure you are looking at something in the realm of love. Lust is selfish, love always puts the other person's best interests before their own gratification.
 
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