5 Reasons People Stay in Bad Relationships

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nightling is offline nightling Post #41  October 8,2009, 7:22pm
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I think biologically when you've bonded with someone it's hard to let go of them if the chemistry has been pretty good. You feel like you're losing that one "true" love you can never find again. It's a storybook idea and it's wrong. You can find passion and love with more than one person in a lifetime. But it's how we feel, and sometimes that keeps us in an unhappy situation, whether that is the wrong person, or being alone because a spouse died.
 
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About the Devil You Know... I was telling a friend that I broke up with my BF and she tried to tell me I was crazy, that there are a lot worse people out there, why would I give him up? Can't I compromise? So I guess she was espousing that theory. Until I told her it was because I caught him cheating... but she still wanted to know if I thought he could change.
 
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About the Devil You Know... I was telling a friend that I broke up with my BF and she tried to tell me I was crazy, that there are a lot worse people out there, why would I give him up? Can't I compromise? So I guess she was espousing that theory. Until I told her it was because I caught him cheating... but she still wanted to know if I thought he could change.
 
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Add getting a divorce for a second time to the list, and being afraid to make a mistake again for the third time. My second husband was cheating on me, and I begged him to stop, but he refused and then he divorced me on my birthday. I have been alone now for over 6 years. I not only have spent entire weekends alone, but I have spent Christmas and other holidays alone. My parents are both deceased, my sister lives out of town, and my daughters father (husband #1) lives out of town so she spends some holidays with him.
Believe me, being alone on holidays is not fun and I was depressed the first time that it happened, but you can make the best of it by changing your attitude. If you look at it as a day off where you can do whatever you want, then it can be a fun day. You can concentrate on making yourself feel better, like work on improving your diet, exercising, cleaning out and organizing your closet, watching a movie, reading a book that you have not had time for, etc. And realizing that you are lucky in many ways, and realizing that no guy is worth getting upset over because if he wanted to be with you, well then he would be, and that is his decision, and that is beyond your control.
 
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epee03 is offline epee03 Post #45  February 5,2011, 7:51am
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No. 4 struck me a bit. i didn't stay because i didn't think anyone else would like me but more about how and where i would be able to find someone else that i could develop the same type of relationship with. we had something potentially really good and i can't believe i was actually willing to stay in longer despite the emotional abuse we both seemed to inflict on each other. it really is a bad sign when both of you bring out the worse in each other.
 
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