Balancing Sexual Passion In A Relationship

Balancing Sexual Passion In A Relationship

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eharmonyadvice is offline eharmonyadvice — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  March 23,2009, 9:38pm

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A relationship can get muddled and off-kilter when a couple allows one aspect (most often, the physical) to get far ahead of the other aspects!
 
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Gah.. wow. yeah not going there... way too complicated.
 
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eharmonyadvice, wrote :

A relationship can get muddled and off-kilter when a couple allows one aspect (most often, the physical) to get far ahead of the other aspects!
Yes, the relationship can become way off-balance. There are so many aspects that go into a cohesive relationship. Unfortunately today's society places the emphasis on the physical, sexual side. There are a mulitude ofavenues inthe relationship to explore and work together on, and yet they tend to fall to the wayside, and this can ultimately lead to the destruction of what could have been a wonderful partnership had the physical not been the primary focus.
 
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I've gotten myself in trouble in a few relationships because the physical aspect took a higher priority than the others. I know that all too well. Definitely have to pace yourself. I think if you put the other aspects in their proper priority, the sexual aspect may actually get better.
 
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The question on this thread doesn't seem to be the exact topic of the associated article...but sure, I think many areas can become overemphasized in a relationship and must be balanced. For example, a couple who work together or have a business together can focus on this too much. The sexual aspect of a relationship can also be too dominant, probably especially if people aren't good at relating on other levels. In a relationship I just go by how things feel as to whether the balance needs to be adjusted.
 
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What are you supposed to do when you have allowed the physical (sexual ) aspects to move ahead of other aspects? Is there a method to navigating through this?
 
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The solution is to not throttle great sex, but to be sure the other aspects keep pace.
 
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In my opinion, a man and woman who are in love have to have some type of physical attraction.  Without it, the relationship lacks the electricity that keeps a sexual relationship alive.  Don't get me wrong, you might love your partner but with out the special element the relationship starts to go flat.
 
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I'm 6 months into a relationship right now and holy he11 the sex is good! I can't get enough of this woman! And she's got me convinced she feels the same way. I'm cognizant of the fact that this is a very dominant part of our relationship. (which is why I read the article) But I connect with her on so many other levels too. I thought this article was light on substance. Like, how to balance the development of the physical with the cognitive, spiritual, and emotional aspects. Or how to tell if you are even off balance or muddled. Right now, it all feels pretty darn good!
 
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I think the point of the article is that the physical part of the relationship often moves much more quickly and often doesn't keep pace with the mental/emotional aspect. It seems like they are saying that its important for both to progress at about the same pace.
If the sex portion is ahead of emotional intimacy or how much you actually know the other person then when the newness wears off you might find yourself with a complete stranger. Sex is more  likely to do this than any other aspect of the relationship.
Thats my take on the article. And I agree with it.
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