The Benefits of Commitment

The Benefits of Commitment

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Scotch is offline Scotch Post #1  February 26,2009, 8:28am
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I love this topic! I see so many couples that just throw in the towel when issues come up - not realizing that they will bring the same baggage into their next relationship. There really is something to committing yourself and sticking by someone!
 
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A big part of finding the love of your life is knowing how to keep the love of your life. Read on for the main challenges that come up during key phases of a relationship -- and how to navigate through them.
 
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Like to stick by my Man...
 
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How do you move past betrayal & trust issues? I have been dating a guy 7 months and I thought we were in love, he has told me he loves me and I him, we are both divorced, we both told each other we wanted an exclusive relationship and I just found out he is on several dating sites and communicating with several women. I saw this on his computer, I printed out the chats and telephone number exchanges and it has been going on through our whole dating time. I comfronted him with it and he out right lied. I dialed the number that was exchanged and his voice mail picked up. I want to save us, but im not sure I can trust him. Im torn on what to do.How do I know he is really comitted to me.
 
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Savanahiam,538681 wrote :

How do you move past betrayal & trust issues? I have been dating a guy 7 months and I thought we were in love, he has told me he loves me and I him, we are both divorced, we both told each other we wanted an exclusive relationship and I just found out he is on several dating sites and communicating with several women. I saw this on his computer, I printed out the chats and telephone number exchanges and it has been going on through our whole dating time. I comfronted him with it and he out right lied. I dialed the number that was exchanged and his voice mail picked up. I want to save us, but im not sure I can trust him. Im torn on what to do.How do I know he is really comitted to me.
You already know how comitted to you he is... he isn't . If he was he wouldn't be on dating sites meeting other women.That is a sign of a liar and a cheater (it is cheating in my books). I think its time for you to end the relationship and move on. He did this to you once he'll do it to you again. You dont really want a life with a man who is going to cheat on you do you?
 
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I THINK THAT COMMITMENT IS A TOPIC THAT A LOT OF RELATIONSHIPS DONT REACH.


COMMITMENT IS AN EASY YET DIFFICULT FEELING TO GAIN AND TO EEN RECIEVE! I THINK THAT IT'S HARD ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU JUST GOT YOUR HEART BROKEN. I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE THAT IT'S DEFINITELY HARD TO BELIEVE IN TRUE LOVE ND COMMITMENT WHEN YOU JUST GOT YOUR HEART BROKEN & EVEN WITH THE SLIGHTEST SIGHT OF THAT PARTICULAR PERSON YOUR HEART STARTS TO BREAK INTO A MILLION PIECES OVER & OVER AGAIN! I THINK THAT IT'S A CHOICE TAKEN WITH RESPONCIBILITY & PAIN
 
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Savanahiam,538681 wrote :

How do you move past betrayal & trust issues? I have been dating a guy 7 months and I thought we were in love, he has told me he loves me and I him, we are both divorced, we both told each other we wanted an exclusive relationship and I just found out he is on several dating sites and communicating with several women. I saw this on his computer, I printed out the chats and telephone number exchanges and it has been going on through our whole dating time. I comfronted him with it and he out right lied. I dialed the number that was exchanged and his voice mail picked up. I want to save us, but im not sure I can trust him. Im torn on what to do.How do I know he is really comitted to me.
Do you know why his last marriage failed? Was it due to his cheating? If so, that may be a red flag. He apparently hasn't fully committed to an exclusive relationship with you if he is still on several sites. You have the evidence and he's lying to you about it, which is also bad.
 
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I look at this article and think 'Duh'. I commit to everyone who I have a relationship with, boyfriend, friends, family and even pets.I guess it's because I know life is hard for everyone, we all have struggles and baggage, and we all need someone to be with us no matter what. Isn't that what family and friends and significant others are for? Support even in thebad times? I don't consider people friends or anything of the sort if I can not commit to them or they cannot commit to me, it's a two way street.
 
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Number2,569729 wrote :

I look at this article and think 'Duh'. I commit to everyone who I have a relationship with, boyfriend, friends, family and even pets.I guess it's because I know life is hard for everyone, we all have struggles and baggage, and we all need someone to be with us no matter what. Isn't that what family and friends and significant others are for? Support even in thebad times? I don't consider people friends or anything of the sort if I can not commit to them or they cannot commit to me, it's a two way street.
.....I agree with what Number2 has written here.....
 
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Pegsta2000 is offline Pegsta2000 Post #10  August 29,2009, 5:04pm
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Do what's right for yourself after all it is YOUR life! Commitment is only necessary when children are present...kids need stability.
 
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