How to Get What you Want without Nagging

How to Get What you Want without Nagging

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Are you nagging your partner to death? If so, you could be major strain on your relationship. Learn how to get what you want without being a major nag.
 
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For some people that have to be constantly asked or reminded to do things, it is a form of being passive/aggressive by not doing them.
 
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Nagging is ANNOYING. Say it once and than never again LOL!!
 
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Withhold sex until he does what you want?!
 
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Most people learn to TUNE OUT after being told the same (negative) thing five...six times. So nagging is COUNTER productive.
 
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For some people that have to be constantly asked or reminded to do things, it is a form of being passive/aggressive by not doing them.
This is not necessarily true. I have read that men, when under stress, may forget to "pick up milk on way home from work". When this "oversight occurs" it may be best to.....let it go. (pg225 of book titled, When Mars And Venus Collide)".....Together we can overcome the tendency for men to become more passive and women to become more demanding....."


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Nagging is ANNOYING. Say it once and than never again LOL!!
Iknow a prayer titled, Ten Rules For A Happy And Successful Wife, and rule number 2 is "don't nag". Rule number 1 is: "avoid arguements, your husband has his share from other sources."


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Withhold sex until he does what you want?!
I have read that this is not a good idea.


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We need to learn how to motivate each other to do what needs to be done. Everyone has buttons to push that willyield either positive or negative results. It is all in the way that you ask. Being demanding will get you nowhere.
 
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