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I'm just curious why some people who are involved with someone have their status as "single." Technically if they aren't married they are single, but why not "in a relationship." Like, let's say that you see someone on here who has a profile that has her as single yet she says something to you like how she's dating someone. Well, shouldn't their status be showing "in a relationship" instead of "single"? Would this not dissuade potential suitors such as moi from initiating conversation?
- February 21st, 2009, 06:29 pm
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Hi Mike,


Some people date one person at a time to see where it goes. They aren't quite "in" a relationship.


Hope I'm not mincing words here
- February 21st, 2009, 06:53 pm
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Two reasons... 1) She isn't dating anyone exclusively. Until you have the discussion, you are not exclusive (even having sex does not equate to an exclusive relationship). 2) She just hasn't updated her profile.
- February 21st, 2009, 07:31 pm
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I agree with the above posts. Unless she's officially in a relationship, she's still "single".








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- February 21st, 2009, 07:43 pm
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treatmesweetly wrote :

Two reasons... 1) She isn't dating anyone exclusively. Until you have the discussion, you are not exclusive (even having sex does not equate to an exclusive relationship). 2) She just hasn't updated her profile.
OMG! THIS is what is wrong with the world today. It may not mean an exclusive relationship, but it should. I'd freak out more about some bed-hopper and what STD they have, than if they are talking to someone else.
- February 21st, 2009, 07:50 pm
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Single = not being exclusive


in a relationship = being exclusive, happens when both party has a discussion and agree.
- February 21st, 2009, 08:06 pm
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luvablefrog wrote :

treatmesweetly wrote :


Two reasons... 1) She isn't dating anyone exclusively. Until you have the discussion, you are not exclusive (even having sex does not equate to an exclusive relationship). 2) She just hasn't updated her profile.


OMG! THIS is what is wrong with the world today. It may not mean an exclusive relationship, but it should. I'd freak out more about some bed-hopper and what STD they have, than if they are talking to someone else.
I never said it was right! However, if you assume that you are in an exclusive relationship because you are having sex with someone, you may be incredibly disappointed and hurt.People must have the discussion to be clear about what constitutes dating vs. an exclusive relationship.


By the way,a discussion about having an exclusive sexual relationship will not protect you from STD's. Get tested,make sure your partner gets tested, before having sex.
- February 21st, 2009, 08:25 pm
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A relationship begins:

· When I no longer have to “ask” to see her, because it is assumed

· AND I am not open to other partners or continuing to get matches

· AND she is doing the same

· AND she has made an unambiguous promise of this

· AND she has not subsequently done something to cause me to reconsider.


Each of these conditions must continuously be met.


Keep in mind, that most of us who are not “in a relationship” are actively dating. This means we will post about dates. If you are interested in an Advice member, I think it is fine to send a message inquiring about her availability.

- February 21st, 2009, 09:00 pm
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We could argue the meaning of "in a relationship" all day long and, in the end, maybe she is ...maybe she isn't...


It's just as likely she told you she was dating someone because she has no interest in dating you.
- February 22nd, 2009, 08:08 am
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