How important is it that you hear the words "I love you"?


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Zifrus is offline Zifrus Post #31  February 18,2009, 5:57pm
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I've been with a girl for a long time now... we've been best friend first.. but as soon as i saw her its was love at first sight... we were best friend but i did love my friend alot.. but she didn't right away but we did realize how confortable we were together so one night.. she amaze me with the 3 important word that i was waiting from her.. I LOVE YOU!!! and for me i loved her the moment i saw her.. so it was magical, amazing to hear those word from her.. that love last almost 4 years but for me that love last forever and ever... until i die..
 
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Saying "I love you" is the most precious words for every person specially housewives, who thinks their partner are not attracted to them anymore after bearing children or getting older. I love to hear these words, every now and then, when I'm down and tired doing all work all day and life is too short, who knows, I live today and I'm gone tomorrow, when are you going to say or hear I love you.
 
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maple2, wrote :

If you are in a committed relationship and your partner shows you in his/her actions that he loves you, is it really important for you to hear these words?


I have been dating someone for 6 weeks now and he told me the other day that every time he says the words "I love you", he jinxes that relationship, so he is holding back.


I personally love to hear these words as many times as someone feels comfortable saying them. Now it may be a little too early to say/hear them at 6 weeks, but I am willing to wait, but for how long?

Six weeks is too soon unless you are certain he feels the same way. I recommend you be patient, let the relationship take its course. I haven't heard a man other than my male relatives tell me they love me in more than five years. I think it's safe to say I can wait a little longer and so can you.


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It's important for me to hear the words IF the man truly loves me; I need my man to be healthy and open enough emotionally to be able to talk easily about how he feels.


At the same time, I don't need to hear the words every day - if they come out too frequently, they practically lose their meaning. An "I love you" that doesn't come out that often, but DOES come out in moments when it means the most, is far more meaningful and powerful to me. I also don't want to hear the words if he doesn't really mean it, and is only using it as a way to get something from me.


If a man knows how to truly MAKE LOVE to a woman, she can literally FEEL how much he loves her, and that sometimes can bemore than sufficient, as well as far more meaningful than the empty repeating of the words. I was once very much in love with a man who did make me feel this way in bed, but it was extremely difficult for him to actually say the words. I knew he loved me, but I still wanted to hear it. He did tell me once that he had never felt so loved before by anyone, so at least I knew I was getting through to him.


That said, I firmly believe that the way we treat each other says far more about how we really feel than what we say. Lots of men will say "I Love You" as a form of manipulation to get a woman to stay with them, when all he really wants to do is play with her emotions to keep her around to serve his purposes. How many of us have heard the stories of women who were abused by men, and all it took was him saying those 3 magic words to keep her from leaving?


True love is mixed with a healthy dose of respect,consideration and concern for the other's welfare, and when those elements are there, I always feel much more loved than when the words are said, but all I feel coming at me is lust.


Little daily ways of showing love are ultimately far more meaningful - like remembering to pick up something from the store because I asked, and maybe doing something thoughtful on his own like bringing home something that he knows I like. Making sure my tires are well inflated, my gas tank is full, and my car is running properly is a big one for me. I appreciate that A LOT from my man. It tells me he cares about my safety.


There have been times when I've had to say to my man, "You may feel love for me, but you don't give love to me. I don't feel loved by you." Then I explain how he can show love to me so that I feel loved. They can say the words "I love you" until they're blue in the face, but until they back it up with their actions, I won't necessarily feel it or believe it.


I think it's extremely important for people to know what their Love Language is, so that both partners can express their love in the way that means the most to their partner; otherwise, they are risking the inevitable demise of the relationship. When I'm in a relationship, I always go out of my way to find little ways to show my man I love him, in a way that means the most to him.


All that said, I think we all need to lighten up a bit about this issue, because I think we should feel more free to say "I love you" to someone without it having to mean we want to spend the rest of our life with them (though we might eventually get to that deeper level of love with them). The reason so many men won't say it quickly or easily is because they're afraid once they say it, the woman will expect a marriage proposal shortly thereafter. I love you means a lot of different kinds of love in different relationships, including the different stages of romantic relationships.
 
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