Classmates.com... is it truly to find old friends or another place to find dates


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dani435 is offline dani435 Post #1  February 4,2009, 5:34am
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My boyfriend and I have been in an exclusive relationship for about a year and a half. For six months of that time we broke up after I found his profile on Match.com. He admitted it was wrong... he thought I lived too far away (one hour) and didn't think it was going to work. So instead of telling me this to begin with and breaking up with me... he decided to go behind my back and try and meet someone. We ended up working things out and are back together exclusively. A few months ago I was on Facebook and he was asking me about it. I told him a few of my friends wanted me to join it... I showed him what it looked like... what it was for... etc. He didn't seem interested. I half kiddingly asked him if he was on Facebook... MySpace... or any of those others. He said he was not. Last week we were at a party and I heard him admit to his friend that he had a profile on "Classmates.com"... Why wouldn't he have mentioned this last month when I asked him about the other online websites? Is he hiding something? Is Classmates.com just to find old friends or is it another way to hookup? I obviously still do not trust him and he is not making it any easier.
 
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Classmates.com? The ancient ancestor of Friendster? People still use classmates.com?


He "admitted" it? Well thats just kind of funny. I don't know a soul who still even checks that website anymore unless um.....they are interested in old high school friendsemail addresses that probably don't work anymore because they signed up 10 years ago.


Your guy does not sound very tech savvy. If he were on facebook and myspace and online all day I might be worried. But classmates.com!?


Yes, it is obvious you don't trust him. I think you should look into that.
 
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and ps....I'm not trying to say you are crazy for not trusting him.... you might have very good reason to not trust him. But its obvious you don't. I'd be asking myself if it's worth it, if something like classsmates.com could give me such pause.
 
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The only thing I've used classmates.com for was for planning a high school reunion. Unless it has changed substantially since then (and I don't think it has) it's awfully limited as a place to troll for dates (for one thing, you can't communicate with anyone unless you pay -- and most people aren't willing to do that...).


Have you even bothered to take a look at the site?
 
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Yeah, Classmates just plain sucks.


Both sides have to pay to do anything on the site, which would be fine, if it was the only option out there.


But these days, you can find and talk to all the same people on Facebook, which of course is free.


Classmates is a great showcase of the mistakes that upper management can take, if they aren't willing to change their business when the world changes behind their backs.


They COULD have been *THE* Facebook, worth billions, because they WERE there first, way before Facebook was even a glimmer in someone's eye. But instead, they refused to change their business model, and have now faded into a joke of a company/web site, in which they were just sued recently for sending fake "An old Classmate of yours is interested in you! Sign up (and pay!) now!"


To find out just how low Classmates have fallen, do a google search on "Classmates lawsuit".
 
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neardc,470386 wrote :

The only thing I've used classmates.com for was for planning a high school reunion.
Ditto.
 
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ScottK,470407 wrote :

... and have now faded into a joke of a company/web site, in which they were just sued recently for sending fake "An old Classmate of yours is interested in you! Sign up (and pay!) now!"
Yeah, I've gotten a bunch of those over the years ... I just deleted the spam.
 
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It doesn't matter - you don't trust him. That's the bottom line. It's up to you to decide if you can live like this with him.
 
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BrownIkid is offline BrownIkid Post #9  February 4,2009, 7:53am

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i'm firmly convinced thatevery online "social networking" site's objective is to get laid, whether it's Myspace, Facebook, Blackplanet, AOL, etc etc.


after all, even irl no matter where you go, you have to admit that you're "lQQking" and so is everyone else... so, why not online?
 
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sweetT is offline sweetT Post #10  February 4,2009, 8:24am
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I'd be very concerned if he was on Match, because that's a dating site, but Facebook, Myspace, and classmates... Arent those Just friend sites? There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with old friends.


Btw, Why are you with someone you dont trust?
 
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