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Hi i am etur. I am in a relationship when i fell in love with david. My BF and david are childhood friends. when i met david i had a feeling that there is something thats going to happen between us. As the time passed on we became very close. We both started as best friends and finally one day he told me 'i love u'. I took it serious. We had a physical relationship for one month but i really didnt do anything extreme ( I am still a virgin). In the mean time my marraige has been fixed by my parents with my BF. I felt very bad for not telling my BF about this. So i told David that i dont want to marry my BF. I told david that i love him so much and i told him that i want to marry him. david withdrawn from me when i told him. He told me that he never felt that way and everybody knows that i am getting married to his childhood friend. I felt very depressed. The next day i tried to commit suicide but david came and rescued me. He called my BF and told him that i am loving him. He did not tell my BF that he too loves me. After that he did not talk with me for many days.


At that time by BF stood beside me and helped me overcome my depression. I told my BF everything. I told my BF that i love david more than anyone and i told him that i can not live without him. My BF told all david previous affairs with girls. But David told everything frankly before when we ended up in a relationship. But my BF allowed me to talk with david. We three became friends again.


After three months i got married to my BF as planned before. David did not attend my marraige. I thought david would come stop this marraige but he did not come. I think after my marraige suddenly david became very sad and he became possesive. He used to cry a lot and he used to expresse his love towards me. we both became much closer after my marraige just as best friends. I never had any physical relationship with david or my Husband after marraige. Its been 2 years i got married i am still a virgin. I still love David. I expressed this to my husband many times. I told him that i am not able to forget him. I told my husband many times to remarry another girl. But he loves me so much. I love david so much. I think my life would be happy if i get married to him. I cant see my husband suffer like this.


David cares for me a lot. Our day starts and ends with his phone call. We love to talk Hours together. We love each others company. He feels sad if i dont call him. He misses me a lot if i go out of my place.I think the only thing that bother him is that if he commits to me he might loose his childhood friend. My parents always insist me for having kids but i am not able to love my husband. I am in a confused state and i am under lot of stress. My heart tells me to love david but my mind tells me that i am doing wrong by dumping my husband who was there in the time of my depression. I dont know what to do. I tried to forget david many times but i could not. I cant live without him. Thats for sure. I suffering a lot becuase of this problem not able to concentrate on anything.


One thing is for sure i love david more than my husband. My husband is an ideal husband. character or personality wise my husband is lot better than david. But these things doesn't stopping me from loving david.Do I have tell david that I am not happy in my marraige? Is he going to accept me if i tell? Will my husband be happy if he finds good parner in future? Do I have to suffer like this my whole life. Is there any solution for my problem?
 
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