maddy31 is offline maddy31 Post #31  February 4,2009, 12:14pm

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Steve_Cam,470266 wrote :

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As an observation, it seems the men that post on these boards are pretty silent about this topic.(I know a couple did respond to the original posting)Does that mean we are really that different? Is it only women that would be this torn up about a "relationship" of this length falling off the radar? Is it really so easy for men to just shrug their shoulders, say "oh well" and move on down the line? I know it was a male writer that coined the whole "he's just not that into you" phrase, and I get it. But is it only a woman (or THIS woman) that will take that to mean "I am just not worth the explanation".....or the uncomfortable moment it would take to make the explanation.....or the opportunity to behave graciously, and come away from this with a friend if not a partner? I feel we (meaning women)get blasted for overprocessing/over-analysing every little thing....then are expected to process/analyse this type of thing by ourselves. Because clearly, they are not going to be forthcoming with an explanation. I guess I can figure it out.....I just hate that I have to do it myself.


Men do get upset about relationships going bad. Youll find many testiments to it on this site. They arent as vocal about it as the women are, cause they are men. Thats not what men do. I'd like to say that any adult woman who has spent any time with men should know this, but women love to read more into things than there are.


Of course you are worthy of an explaination. As I mentioned in my previous post, the guy just wussed out. Who knows the reason, I personally wouldnt care. As far as being blasted, well yeah, it gets annoying. But sometimes things are just out of your control and yeah, you just have to figure somethings out yourself. Life isnt always fair. The sooner you accept that, and not let it destroy your outlook, the sooner youll find yourself much happier.


I am one of the biggest worry wart I know. I stay up and worry about the silliest things(silly to others because they are things out of my control). But I dont spend alot of time crying about it to others(again im a man and generally men dont do that). So I understand the drive to want to know the 'Whys' behind the dissappearing act. Sometimes the only answer you need is that it is what it is.


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BigDug is offline BigDug Post #32  February 4,2009, 10:30pm
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It seems he's just not into you anymore. Two weeks with no contact is a bad sign. Him not contacting you back is just childish.
 
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