mishy is offline mishy Post #1  January 30,2009, 1:37pm
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I've been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years now, living together for 3 with our own home for about a year. Recently, he's informed me that he may not want kids. Though he's always been the one asking me to have a baby.Shortly after this, he decides he may not want to get married at all (not marry anyone). We have been having issues ever since (about 3 wks). I'm only 22 (he's 24)so Im in no real rush to get married or have children, being engaged would be nice but when he's also ready. He says he still loves me but doesnt know if it's because we've been together for so long or because he does. He will occasionally say "I love you too" after I say it but not always. He says he's at the point he wants to ask me to leave but doesnt know how life will be without me. The other night I came home from work and asked if he missed me. He shrugged. A few hours later, while trying to talk about things, I told him i missed him. At this point, he said he missed me too.I asked him what he would have done if i hadnt come home and his response was "find something to do so I wouldnt miss you".He says he doesnt want this to end but doesnt know if it's worth fighting for because he feels like he doesnt care. I dont know what to do. I dont know where this sudden change of heart is comming from. I love him and want a future with him. I am hoping its just a phase. He just conradicts himself constanlty. Any advice would be great!
 
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