angelofmerci is offline angelofmerci Post #31  February 3,2009, 8:16am
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Being single does not mean you are lonely or have to be lonely. Loneliness is a choice we make. When you end a relationship you usually move somewhere else to live, not necessarily another city or state but to another house or apartment. At first you are kept busy getting settled in and setting a routine. Once you are all settled comes the time when you have time on your hands even if you are working or going to school or doing both. Whether you are lonely at this point depends upon you. To help alleviate the loneliness you can visit friendsand family but that most likely will not fill all your time or you can find things to do that will fill up this time.


You can do volunteer work at a local clinic or animal shelter or animal rescue group. You can become a volunteer fireman or volunteer at your church, volunteer for "Meals on Wheels." You can also take up a hobby that you always wanted to try but never had the time or the circumstances were not right.


My point is that there are too many things a person can do so that they never have to feel lonely. Good Luck
 
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chawks64 is offline chawks64 Post #32  February 3,2009, 3:34pm
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Eharmony is where people go to find a relationship. I'm sorry your current relationship isn't working out, but (even with a disclaimer) eHarmony is not the place to find a friend. Glad you realized that before being unfair to someone you might be matched with.


If you already know your relationship is on it's deathbed, just end it. I'm not saying this in an offhand way. I know how hard it is. The first time I ever lived on my own (ever) was when I left my ex at age 38, and then it was with2 kids and a low-paying job to feed them with.


You have to establish who you are without the influence of a significant other before you can ever find a mate that will fit. Otherwise, if you always need to be with someone, you will find yourself filling in the gaps in your life with what THEY want you to be, not who you really are. I know you didn't say you needed to be with someone, it's just something I feel because I've been there. Thankfully, I have moved beyond that and learned to think I'm pretty amazing, either by myself or with a man. Either way is fine.


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naturegirl06825 is offline naturegirl06825 Post #33  February 5,2009, 10:29pm
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BikerBeagle,453476 wrote :

So ...you are basicallyasking forthe opportunity to search for your nextrelationship before you end yourcurrent relationship because you are afraid to be alone?


I feel sorry for the poor suckers that get matched up with you ...
Yeah, BikerBeagle...you are right. Why would someone go to the trouble or the money to be put on E-Harmony for a friendship only? It's not fair! Games like this get old, its because of people doing things like this that make it hard on the rest of us!
 
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kat5560 is offline kat5560 Post #34  February 5,2009, 10:59pm
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geez you guys can be cruel. i posted many times that this was mistake on my part (not understanding how eh worked). i only questioned that there my be some lonely old soles out there that would not mind having a women to talk to that was going through a similar thing. i was wrong, that is not what they want,,,, give me a break with coming back a week later to still insult me with what was a misunderstanding. please, let it go!! your invited to my other posts where people are being more understanding and just talking to each other nicely and helping each other. that is why i came here. i know what people mean now when they say they cant make one mistake and never live it down!! it was a misunderstanding!!! i had no intent on coming on and playing head games with other people. i was just looking for friends to talk to like i am doing here. my mistake! so shoot me!! can we let it go and get back to talking to each other and helping each other instead of throwing comments around about people that you really dont know?
 
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