Questioning a relationship

I said I was not expecting sex, just a little more intimate time together. I did not offer for her to stay over as I thought that was way too forward and may be interpreted wrongly. I have a small condo. One room and couch. I would had thought it would be just interpreted to her as I was just looking for sex and nothing else. I have no prblem of taking it slow. And normally I would just let the woman decide. I have not made any agressive moves on her. But I do not want her to loose interest either. I also do not want to look like I am not sexuality ttracted to her in her mind because I am taking more of a layed back approach in the intimate dept. Except for hugging, kissing at the beginning and end of the date, and holding hands I am not really being forward on anything else. Since I do not read minds it is hard to know what she really thinks. I also think bringing this up at date six could bring up a problem. So essentially I am lost.

Met Brooke on eHarmony a few weeks back. We txt a few times a week and go out on weekends. Both in education and in our early 30's so we have always had a lot to talk about. We kiss eachother at the beginning and end of each date since the third. We just had our fifth date on Friday where I invited her over and cooked a nice three course chicken dinner. She enjoyed the meal watched a little TV and said she wanted to leave at 12:00 cause she lives about an hour a way.





I can say I am truly confused. Granted I didn't expect sex or anything, but making out or something would had been a nice progression. I did not want to force or put any pressure on her, so I made only slight moves and jestures on Friday. Think she is playing it safe? Can't be waiting for me. I did invite her over, cook a complete meal, etc. We also connect on many different levels. I am seeing her Wednesday after school. I was going to say where are we going from here, but not sure if it is to soon or me being overly agressive. Don't want to ruin it, but confused by her actions. Or lack there of.

I agree with Angelofmerci . . . if your agenda was to invite her to your house to escalate your physical relationship by trying to seduce her with slaving over a hot stove and expecting she'd connect the dots, then the communication here is that you're not doing it just to "be" with her and she may have sensed that and that's why she didn't act on it. The communication is you're doing all these nice things not because you simply enjoy her company, but you expect her to "put out".


If you want to move to the next level with her, simply tell her it's something you want to do with her and see if she's agreeable. Then set up a romantic evening with her if she agrees. If she's not and says she's simply not ready yet or she simply wants to be friends, you have the choice of waiting until she' feels comfortable, remaining friends and mvoing on to someone else.


I went out with a guy on a 4th date who took me to this really fancy restaurant and the theatre and as we were walking into the theatre, he started talking about what we were going to do when we got back to his place and it wasn't playing monopoly and I told him I wasn't ready to do that and he got upset because he said hespent all this money and at least expected me to spend the night. I took a taxi home. I was very insulted and this scenario you're explaining is somewhat similar.

mimijiminy, during those three months, were both of you just dating eachother or did you date others as well? I have no problem waiting, just wish she would give me some idea of what she's thinking inside?