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I don't drink. The Bible doesn't say, "Thou shalt not drink"; it does say not to be drunk- and how do we decide exactly what that point is biblically?- and it does say that "Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging, and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise."Not drinking certainly doesn't hurt me. Medical "benefits" of wine can also be accomplished by drinking unfermented grape juice.
- January 24th, 2009, 09:21 am
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As a small child I saw how drinking could ruin your life and the impact it had on the family. As an adult I saw my stepfather get drunk every weekend until retirement when he then stayed drunk. He eventually died from alcoholism which is not a pretty sight. I may drink a bottle of beer once or twice a month or I may go six months without a drink. I don't need it.


I remember growing up in a town in La. where on Friday evenings the Baptist would cross the river to buy liquor. They would come out of the liquor store carrying a shoe box that contained a bottle of booze. They were not fooling anyone. They would get back into their cars and cross the river back into their dry community. Talk about hipocrits.
- January 24th, 2009, 09:26 am
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You can change your match settings to select people who never drink, if you want to meet someone who doesn't drink like you do.
- January 24th, 2009, 09:27 am
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I do not drink,enjoy coffee orsmoke. Further, I do not eat red meat,hunt or kill animals.


The reason I do not drink is because it alters one's state of mind, and I prefer being in my natural state of mind. Also, I've been accused of being drunk more than once whilecompletely sober. I face life raw, anddesire no accoutrements to feeling good about myself, feeling secure or being able to socialize.


Still, I do not have tobe witha partner who does not drink. A sociable drinker is okay with me.Besides, there aresome drinks thatare mighty tasty. It's the alcoholaffect that I don't want.


When I drank in myyouth, I did so to feel more sure of myself. But as I grew to learn who I am, it was not necessary. Also, I come from of family of ancestral and full-blood ChickasawNative Americans. The sensitivity to alcohol runs rampant in my family, so I am aware of its potentialharmto me.


Someof my friends are Christian, but I do notconsider myself to be atraditional Christian. Some of my friends drink and some don't.
- January 24th, 2009, 10:16 am
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I don't drink. I am not looking for someone that drinks either. My reasons are moral and spiritual. I don't impose my views on others at the table having dinner with me. I would be prepared to call a cab in case a date decides he is okay to drive. I am against drunk driving, drinking till you pass out and forget that some guy took advantage of you, that type of thing.


As a Christian, your testimony and example of how you live your life is what Paul was referring to. Even if you have no problem with one or two once in a while, will your behaviour help or destroy someone else's life? Of course, it is just common sense to not do it in front ofsomeone that has a problem with alcohol. Not in front of your kids because it is sets a bad example for them, specially if you act like a jerk afterwards.
- January 24th, 2009, 10:19 am
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I do not drink alcoholic beverages and I most definitely am NOT a Christian ("good" or otherwise) of any sect, denomination, or sort.


Obviously, this is NOT because of religious, nor moral reasons, but simply because I don't enjoy it, and want to remanin healthy/fit.
- January 24th, 2009, 12:50 pm
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My religion teaches that "drunkenness" is a sin. But,along the lines of whatdore stated above, "drunkenness" is a pretty subjective term.
- January 24th, 2009, 01:16 pm
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Okay I do not drink. After i met the Lord not instantly butafter awhile I decidednot to drink anymore. But christian think it is okay to drinkwhenever i change my settingto a few drinks then i get these matches.So i changed it back tono drinking. I do not see the point in drinking it makes you act different and could kill a life.


So how many of you Christians think it is wrongto drink.
- January 24th, 2009, 03:16 pm
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I don't want to sound trollish, so please take this as the humor it's meant to be. No offense, okay.


But my buddy, who's a Catholic, and I, who amBaptist,were discussing this topic one night in college, while we were out in Austin. Cats are good to drink, Baps are not, especially the Southern Baps where I'm from.


He said, "You know the biggest difference between Catholics and Baptists? The Catholics are the ones out on the dance floor, drinking, singing, being all Mardi Gras. And the Baptists are the ones in the corner, quietly drinking away, hoping nobody sees em."


For the record, I took my first drink at 21. I did NOT drink in HS or those first years of college. Not one drop. I used to order orange juice, and tell everyone I was drinking screwdrivers, just to get them off my back about not drinking!


I missed a lot of parties, and a lot of folks thought I was a weirdo.


I don't think it's wrong to drink, or to be sober. I do think it's wrong to pressure the non-drinker, or topass judgementon the drinker.


When I wasn't drinking, I hated when someone would force a beer on me.


When I was drinking, I hated when someone said I shouldn't be.


Make your choice, stand by it, the rest be damned, and don't judge them for their choices.


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- January 24th, 2009, 07:04 pm
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Dear Angel,


I choose not to drink by choice and am very pleased with my choice. As others have mentioned, the Bible says not to drink to excess. I'm a committed Christian and prefer a match who doesn't drink, though would not rule out someone who drinks very occasional such as not more than once a month.


I once has a match who claimed he didn't drink that much only to discover he nursed a 12-pack throughout the day! He was in denial so I discovered I had to qualify what I meant by not drinking much as before I had selected I preferred a match who didn't drink more than once a week and that's what this guy had deceived himself into thinking he was.


The matches I had (probably not all of them but a good many) who claimed they only drank once a week, did, indeed, drink much more and that's why I changed my settings to very occasionally or not at all.


Additionally, I dislike the smell of alcohol on a man's breath! It's very unromantic and oft-putting!


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- January 24th, 2009, 09:38 pm
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