Betrayal: 5 Steps to Help You Move Forward

Betrayal: 5 Steps to Help You Move Forward

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Betrayal: 5 Steps to Help You Move Forward


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bOnJovIfAn is offline bOnJovIfAn Post #31  February 25,2009, 6:51pm
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If you've recently suffered the sting of betrayal, you probably feel like your life is spinning out of control. Between the tears, humiliation, and confusion, you may wonder how you'll ever survive. What follows are five crucial steps to successfully move forward and beat the bite of betrayal.


i completely understand those words. What do you do when you cant think about anything else and the memories haunt you? My best Friend slept with my boyfriend of two years while I still waswe were all friends and had a tight relationship. Eventually i got overit or at leat i thought i did andwe are friends again but about a year ago my sister who I use to confide it about the situation seemed to have some sort of dealing with him also. i happend to come across a phone bill on an account we were sharing together and found out they were speaking everyday un beknown to me. At this point i feel like karma is kicking my ass or something. I fell trapped and no where to go and nobody to talk about with. Once you've been betrayed by the people closest to you(my sister and best friend) where do you turn what to you do?
Hi I too have been betrayed by my so called 'friends,' my husband of 10 years slept with that many of my 'friends' over the years and I didn't find out til it was too late.


We're now divorced...


I then get into a semi relationship with a guy, unbeknown to me it's certainly not exclusive and monogamous. I took my niece and one of her 16 year old friends around to his place with me one night, (he was 27 at this stage) and I find out a while later he screwed this 16 year old girl I took to his place.... aswell as anything else with legs and a @#%$&.


I confront him about it and do you know what he says to try and get himself out of trouble...? I didn't know she was 16 and one of your niece's friends... I THOUGHT SHE WAS YOUR FRIEND!!!


Lol that makes it all better eh???


Needless to say I trust no one but myself and my two beautiful children theses days...
 
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mynia is offline mynia Post #32  March 4,2009, 10:30pm
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I have recntly divorced,due to betrayal and not one affair but three. I had been married for 22years and all of the affairshave occured in these last 9 years. This last one has also a child involed, and being sued. It is hard to even think that you can forgive someone that continues to disrespect you as a women. My ex still says that he loves me but I can't trust nor do I belive him. I read your story I guess I am still to angry to think that forgiving myself will make things better. Pls advi.
 
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Of all the steps....step 5 has got to be the hardest. If you've ever been cheated on you know how hard it is to trust anyone again.You seem to always be looking for "the signs" when your with someone new. You can't help yourself. You do it even if you don't meanto. Thats why its important to tell any future partners about your past.Don't blame yourself for way things were. And carry on.
 
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vjkjv is offline vjkjv Post #34  September 22,2009, 6:00pm
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I've read a lot of forgiveness articles, but all seem to apply to the situation where you get to walk away from the individual and never see them again. The part about not being consumed with resentment for the rest of your life makes perfect sense, but...

-How exactly do you get over the anger when you have to see the person every week (because you have kids together)?

-How exactly do you get over anger from *double* betrayal (when your partner/spouse AND your best friend/sibling run off together) and you have to see these people all the time?

Whoever's gotten past these things successfully - Please ADVISE HOW YOU DID IT! Thanks
 
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Ladiva43 is offline Ladiva43 Post #35  October 10,2009, 11:06am
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married for 17yrs, found out march this year 19yr old is pregnant with husband's child, throw him out..they lived 5minutes drive away from my home, he is taking her to my family doctor...took him to court for child support....etc..I took our two sons away for holiday came back and he is acting like nothing happened...he told the boys he lives alone and these are a few proposals that came my way from him would u like to go lunch? want ot go for a ride? do u want to go to burger king with the kids and I?...Is this guy for real?...we were separated for 8yrs because of his drinking and abusiveness and just started living back since last July, keep me in your prayers cause I'm moving on with no looking back, this was the closure that was needed...he will never change!
 
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