Dear 67 year old lady from Phillipines.


Yes, he is betraying you. He was probably betraying his formal wife while she was mourning their son's death. I understand your fear of losing him, but he doesn't seem to have any feelings of sympathy toward you. He will probably get the girl from Chinapregnant and make her life miserable and make you feel like dying.


My dad who is now 70 cheated on my mom who gave him 4 beautiful children, 1 is me, 1 died after birth. 1 child is a doctor and me and my sister has a child each, therefore making my 70 year old, a Grand father.


Nevertheless, his cheating went on and on for 30 years. Every few years, I would hear them argueing, fighting, dad beating my mom... I was 6to 10. Everyday, I lived in a fear of them fighting, because it was so bad. In a country where I am born and lived for 12 years, it is not illegal to physically abuse a wife. Anyway, I saw my dad beating up my mom and told my mom to get a divorce...I was only 8 or so. She didn't and we all moved to US. Here, instead of heating her, he chose another way to hurt my mom. Cheating, cheating, and not giving her support in raising us.


He met a girl my sister's age (Like almost 30 years junior of my dad) and got her pregnant. He ended up taking the child away from her, as he is very good at manipulating girls, and is raising the child with his new wife who is basically there to cook, clean and keep him company in his old age. He is still hurting my mom and hurting us with his devotion to his new child, neglecting all his grand children.


My point, man's phsycological age will never change. His personality of not devoting to his family or child will remain no matter how old he is. If he doesn't know how to prioritize to make him and his family happy and content, he will use whatever way it is available to make HIMSELF seem important and happy. Him lying about you about the girl in China proves it. He probably told her he is separated or divorced and is on his way to sleep with her to prove to himself that he is young and attractive. He already wrote you off as incapable of making him feel young and therefore feeling self important.


I would immediately divorce him and take everything. Hope phillipine law is generous to you.

And ladies buy a copy of "he's just not that into you"....I did and it has changed how I react to when a man behaves in any way that causes me to doubt my self worth......We are SUPERFOXES and deserve to be treated accordingly. DONT WASTE THE PRETTY!

My now exwife left me 8 months ago for another. This is complicated by the fact that I have to drive by our house at least twice a day. It gets worse. I also work less than 500 yards drictly behind that house and have to look at too many times a day. Times are tough but I have a good job and guess that I'm afraid to test the waters during turbulent times. I guess that I should put my faith into practice and leave this little town of Moab, Utah and move back home to Denver. I just wish this would all go away, the pain is agonizing and paralizing me constantly.


Confused in Utah, all advise is welcome.