Out of the Blue

Man i went through the same thing... i dated a girl that had us move from atlanta to michigan so she could pursue a goal of her own, the whole time i'm under the impression that his is a relationship that has a future - marriage, family, kids, in-laws - the whole nine yards. not a month or two after we get there she starts pulling away, 4 - 5 months later she tells me that she no longer loves me... no no wait, "i love you, i'm just not 'in' love with you anymore". after that came even more excuses. as it turned out she had cheated on me with some frat boy at msu because in her words "i didnt know if i still wanted to be with you anymore and this was my way of getting the ball rolling".


sorry to tell you mate but i have good and bad news for you... the good: most likely it was nothing you did that caused it to end, the bad: that means there is nothing you can fix to make things right. she is just an emotionally unstable person and in all reality, like myself, you are much better off without her.


i went through all the things in exact detail that angelofmerci went through before i was finally able to put things into perspective. hear me now mate, this is important... THERE IS NO CLOSURE, THERE IS NO WHY, THERE IS ONLY WHAT IS. don't make things harder on yourself by trying to figure out what happened, i know you sit in bed every night replaying everything in your head trying to figure out what happened and no matter what, you can't make it stop. but let me tell you first hand, you will never know.the more you try and figure it out, the harder its going to be. please, you just have to come to terms with what is.


somethings simply cannot be answered - this is one of them. your only play here is to just accept what happened and know that you will grow from it and one day she might look back and see what a horrible mistake she made or she won't. as far as her coming back or realizing what she had, know this; there is a reason why she did what she did, normal balanced and mentally healthy women do not act like that, there is something misfiring in her head that's cause the situation your in. that isnt to say that she is any more or less crazy than the rest of the women i the world but there is deffinately something wrong. that something isnt going to be fixed in a matter of weeks or months. she needs a lot of time to really figure out what she truly wants in life and the sad part is that doesnt ever have to happen.


do not call her, do not texts or email her - let her go. know that only two things are going to come of that. one is that it will just drive her away even further, the other and most importantly is that it's only going to make things a hundred times harder on you. if she contacts you about being friends - tell her your not interested in talking to her, that simply isnt possible, i know this because of what you wrote and that tells me how you feel.


do everyrthing you can to stay away from her, you saw what you needed too, this girl isnt ready to be wife material and won't be for quite some time.


good luck

I'm at a loss! I dated a woman for 2 years plus with the intent of getting married. We had intended in Sept. but for financial reasons we put it off for a year. All was well, we had our ups and downs but always work through them. I always heard from herthat we were partners for life and mates for life. Suddenly a few month ago she started to pull away. It became a effort for her to share intimacy (not just sex). Even when we hung out together we still had fun. Suddenly over the holidays she ended it. Lots of shallow excuses...when even up to a week earlier she still stated she loved me. Now she's gone. I'm so heartbroken sometimes I feel as if I'm going to have a nervous breakdown. I tried so hard andI know thatin my heart Iloved her deeper that any of her previous boyfriends. I feel so at fault even though I honestly believe I did my very best. I am so confused and hurt. Tears fall at all times, lost weight and getting out of bed is hard. How can someone change without any warning and be so cold. Please I need some words of encouragement... I know someday she'll look back and realize she lost someone who would have loved her until the end of time

keys


just wanted to let you know, i loved the quotes you left. I needed to hear those


behappy13

Man i went through the same thing... i dated a girl that had us move from atlanta to michigan so she could pursue a goal of her own, the whole time i'm under the impression that his is a relationship that has a future - marriage, family, kids, in-laws - the whole nine yards. not a month or two after we get there she starts pulling away, 4 - 5 months later she tells me that she no longer loves me... no no wait, "i love you, i'm just not 'in' love with you anymore". after that came even more excuses. as it turned out she had cheated on me with some frat boy at msu because in her words "i didnt know if i still wanted to be with you anymore and this was my way of getting the ball rolling".


sorry to tell you mate but i have good and bad news for you... the good: most likely it was nothing you did that caused it to end, the bad: that means there is nothing you can fix to make things right. she is just an emotionally unstable person and in all reality, like myself, you are much better off without her.


i went through all the things in exact detail that angelofmerci went through before i was finally able to put things into perspective. hear me now mate, this is important... THERE IS NO CLOSURE, THERE IS NO WHY, THERE IS ONLY WHAT IS. don't make things harder on yourself by trying to figure out what happened, i know you sit in bed every night replaying everything in your head trying to figure out what happened and no matter what, you can't make it stop. but let me tell you first hand, you will never know.the more you try and figure it out, the harder its going to be. please, you just have to come to terms with what is.


somethings simply cannot be answered - this is one of them. your only play here is to just accept what happened and know that you will grow from it and one day she might look back and see what a horrible mistake she made or she won't. as far as her coming back or realizing what she had, know this; there is a reason why she did what she did, normal balanced and mentally healthy women do not act like that, there is something misfiring in her head that's cause the situation your in. that isnt to say that she is any more or less crazy than the rest of the women i the world but there is deffinately something wrong. that something isnt going to be fixed in a matter of weeks or months. she needs a lot of time to really figure out what she truly wants in life and the sad part is that doesnt ever have to happen.


do not call her, do not texts or email her - let her go. know that only two things are going to come of that. one is that it will just drive her away even further, the other and most importantly is that it's only going to make things a hundred times harder on you. if she contacts you about being friends - tell her your not interested in talking to her, that simply isnt possible, i know this because of what you wrote and that tells me how you feel.


do everyrthing you can to stay away from her, you saw what you needed too, this girl isnt ready to be wife material and won't be for quite some time.


good luck