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Okay, dating is not always easy or fun, but it's time to conquer your fears and make things happen for yourself. This is your year!
- January 14th, 2009, 01:03 pm
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Except for item #1, the article assumes you are aready dating or already in a relationship!!!


Um, the author needs to try writing this again!
- January 14th, 2009, 08:16 pm
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In the last paragraph under item #1, it reads:


Don’t seek out people who are unavailable, try asking a friend to set you up on a blind date, start a new activity to meet other people and update or get your profile on an internet dating site to increase your chances of finding other singles.


Doesn't the author really mean to put a period after unavailable, and then start a new sentence by ENCOURAGING people to ask a friend... start a new acdtivity... and update or get your profile...
- January 15th, 2009, 04:53 pm
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If you have these issues you have trouble getting into one. I can see that I have intamacy issues. Too scarry


- January 15th, 2009, 06:18 pm
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I know facing your fears isn't easy, but it's worth it. Unfortunately I recently had a promising relationship end because some of these issues caused problems. She just couldn't bring herself to face her fears. Well actually she's starting to face them, but I guess she needs time alone to work on it. Maybe if there wasn't the distance between us, she could handle having someone around while she works it out. But I think the time it takes to maintain a long-distance relationship is just too difficult if you're working on things like this(in addition to the normal pressures of life and the current economy).


I don't know where I was going with all that, but basically - try not to over analyze the grammar/style and try to understand the spirit of the message. There's no time like the present to begin working on your fears and stepping out and tryingto make a connection. It probably won't work at first, but when you do meet that special someone; you'll be better prepared to recognize it because you'll betterunderstand yourself and what you need in a mate.


My friend took some goodstrides, but it became very overwhelming. There's still hope that some time apart will give her the ability to work things out. I really felt a connection and we got along well. Regardless what the future holds between us, we both benefitted greatly by giving it a try. The facts are that you'll never accomplish anything if you're afraid of failure andmakingmistakes. Use your head and don't make stupid decisions regarding finances, personal safety etc. But there's nothing with risking your heart...


And regarding the comment about the article requiring you to be in a relationship... No - the point is that these issues can prevent you from getting into a relationship, not just stunt the growth of an existing relationship...


Good luck and keep your head up and your heart and eyes open...

- January 15th, 2009, 11:09 pm
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"Most people aren’t actually afraid of intimacy they’re afraid of what happens if they get hurt or rejected." Very TRUE!! I'm learning to over come this.
- January 16th, 2009, 06:00 pm
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gsdlady wrote :

"Most people aren’t actually afraid of intimacy they’re afraid of what happens if they get hurt or rejected." Very TRUE!! I'm learning to over come this.
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Very true indeed. I find that the best way to "recover" for me, is just to get out there & repeat.....Sitting at home and wallowing doesn't help me & only hinders recovery
- January 16th, 2009, 08:00 pm
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