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Long distance relationships are not the easiest things, but they can be rewarding. The biggest thing I have come across has been the other only giving it a half hearted effort, and only wanting a roll in the hay with a stranger. But everyone is not like this, and I am not ruling out a long distance relationship.


Good luck to all in your search.
- January 13th, 2009, 02:24 pm
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Certain personality traits simply do not perform well in long-distance relationships. Check out our list to see if you're equipped to go the distance or suited to a local love affair.
- January 13th, 2009, 02:24 pm
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Replace the word "signs" with the word "reasons."
- January 13th, 2009, 04:55 pm
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It was Halloween night, and everything went wrong. Was supposed to visit my grandkids in L.A. They had the flu, and then I was supposed to go out, that didn't work out. Have dinner with my brother, he'd already left. I visited a casino, just browsing around, after dinning alone. I sat down to play video poker, and chatted with a lady. I had a question about the game, and she introduced me to her son, Carmelo. They were from New York. Friendships were made, and for the next 5 days, I spent time with Carmelo. We laughed, chatted, had dinner, and hot tea. I had the time of my life. I dated locals through the website, and no luck, at all. It wasn't meant to be. And then there was Carmelo, and he was simply, the most charming person in the world. Carmelo and his mother returned to New York, the first week of November. I visited him for Christmas. He will arrive in Las Vegas this March. We are IN LOVE, and have many plans. We chat on line, and phone every day, and with the video cam. He is the sweetest guy in the world. Carmelo compliments me everyday, and we simply adore each other. Life is good, and I believe some things happen, simply through destiny...


All the best to everyone, in 2009...
- January 14th, 2009, 05:10 am
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I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. Long distance of 120 miles or about 2 hours driving time. I'm happy to report that we will be married on Feb. 21, 2009. But the above article is true. I think the wisest thing to do, before you ever go online is to make decisions first. Decide if you would move, if you would want children, together (or theirs and young or old ones). Even the sex before marriage issue, will you or will you not. Make all those decisions, plus the "is this a relationship make or break issue". If you lay your ground rules first and look for that person then all the rest should fall into place. It did for me. Thank you E-harmony for helping me with my perfect match. Sorry about the mention of another dating source.
- January 14th, 2009, 05:56 am
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How bad am I at long distance relationships? Well, one time I got married right in the middle of one - to someone else!!!
- January 14th, 2009, 08:31 am
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Long distance relationships are tough. I met a man 4/07 and we became friends. Well, as time grew, so didour feelings. We seen each other a lot over those couple of years and at the end of it all we fell in love. I know that California and Texas has thousands of miles toseparate the two but we actually found true love. I will be relocating to Texas within the next couple of months and I'm very excited because the distance is no fun anymore. Everything about this article is true. There were endless phone conversations and text messages, many visits, and we even sent weekly pictures of ourselves to make the relationship seem closer. The point I'm trying to make is that we had to work at it and we did because we cared so much for each other. Now that I'm moving there I know we will get closer because he is more that my man...he is now my best friend and thatis thefoundation for what we share today.
- January 14th, 2009, 09:42 am
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Add "or not trusting enough" to reason #1. A man who seemed so right for me and that I absolutely adored, lived 100 miles away. After a few months, every conversation seemed to include a grilling of who I talked to and what I did. Any interaction with the opposite sex was forbidden. I used to have a friendly, bubbly personality.. I'm getting close to recovering it again. I'm surprised the relationship lasted as long as it did. I wonder if being closer would have made a difference in the relationship with him. Funny thing.. I am now dating someone local.. he is communicating with someone out of state.. huh.
- January 14th, 2009, 09:50 am
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Great topic. I was 1/2 of a dynamite long distance deal as a result of eHarmony. We gave it absolutely everything we had,we arefirmly convinced. But over time the practicalities of life did the relationship in. Neither of us is sorry thatthe relationshiphappened but we are just a bit wiser now. This may not be the most romantic post any of you will ever read here, but trust me, the nuts and bolts of a relationship are important too.


Probably more of a problem for us more mature folks and living in a very rural area compounds the problem.


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- January 14th, 2009, 10:59 am
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Long distance relationships can be wonderful and challenging all at the same time. On the plus side, yes, you do need TONS of phone time, which really strengthens communication. On the downside, your physical time togetherdoes not simulate real life. It's more like vacation.Think about it. When you're together, the time is very intense, which can bewonderful.You've both cleared your schedules and your time together is more often than not spent doing vacation-like activities. But is this what real life is like? While I don't rule out LDRs completely, I do think it's necessary for someone to eventually relocate to the same city to "do life together" on a daily basis, with all its triumphs and tragedies.Thiswill ultimatelydetermine whether your relationship really has the stuff of marriage.
- January 14th, 2009, 02:14 pm
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