Why do some people constantly jump from one relationship to another? They spend most of their lives inback-to-back romanticrelationships,converse only about the relationship they're in and are usually in another relationship before the last one has cooled. They seem like true relationship junkies.


Currently, I know two women, a longtime friend and a relative, who have recently started new relationships afterallowing just a few weeks between each one. Does anyone else think this is odd? Both women are attractive,intelligent and extremely responsible in their business dealings, but appear fickle inhow they handle their romantic lives.


The longtime friend and I have known each other for about 20 years. But in many ways I feel like I don't know her at all because she has never been single long enough for us tospend any quality time together. Shortly before Christmas, she sent me a CD of a song she had written. I listened to it, called her and left a message that I liked it. She has notyet returned my call. Her usual pattern is to start a project, become enamored of it and then let it fall by the wayside because she meta new man.This pattern is repeatedfurtherby her tardiness in returning her phone calls.


For the past ten years, she has been essentially unavailablebecause she married, divorced and re-married the same man without telling anyone until the marriage was well into it's second year. When that marriage ended, she began a new relationshiptwo months later. Whenever we talk, the conversation is about nothing buther relationship, which is now into it'sfirst year.Sheseems unable to stick to committments to meet for lunch, go shopping oreven attend an art event.


In the case of the relative, she is ending her third marriage, hubbyhasmoved outof the house two weeks now, and she istalking of nothing but the new man she's seeing. When we recently went to lunch, the entire conversation was about the wonderful attributes of this new man.


We had talked in depth about why she continues toform new relationships so quickly, andshe basically said it's because sheprefers being in a relationship, finds her own company boring and feels she is impulsive.


There is so much more I want to say about this, but I don't want to write an overly long post. Basically, the problem I'm having withboth women is thatI care about them, but they always seem to be "away." They live on the outskirts of my life.The people who know them only see them when they are between relationships. As morbid as it sounds, it has increasingly begun to feel like theyhave "died," very much like a person who is on drugs and "out there."


It seems to me that both women are addicted to being in a relationship, for whatever reason do not maintain LTR's and have chosen to constantly repeat an unhealthy pattern.


Could you share your similar stories on this topic? Do you think I should talk further with both women?