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Another thread got me thinking about this and, as I can't say I've seen a thread or article specific to it, I thought I'd ask ...


How important is "AMBITION" to you in a dating environment?


To be clear on the definition:


am·bi·tion


-noun
1. an earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment.
2. the object, state, or result desired or sought after.
3. desire for work or activity; energy.


–verb (used with object)
4. to seek after earnestly; aspire to


I believe most people attribute this almost entirely to employment and, through that, the direct attainment of (or the ability to attain) wealth? Seriously, why don't you just say, "I like men who are GREEDY"?


greed


–noun
1. excessive or rapacious desire, esp. for wealth or possessions.


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- January 7th, 2009, 04:27 pm
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eHA bugs strike again? Seems like newly created posts are going to the end of the line, rather than being sorted at the top, newest first.
- January 8th, 2009, 04:14 am
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I like ambition in my significant other, but not someone who whose ambition takes over every other priority....


A healthy amount of ambition is good, because it makes you set and achieve goals, without which, life would be boring....
- January 8th, 2009, 04:28 am
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Ambition (just about work alone) at times equates (make into) work-a-holics. I think to be passionate about all things in your life, including work, can only be thought of as a good thing. If we spoke of employment alone, I think I'm less ambitious as I was in younger years. ie, work at a less stressful job, which has allowed me to put in my 40 hr work week, instead of the 60 in past jobs.
- January 8th, 2009, 04:39 am
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It doesn't matter either way with me, so long as they are happily employed and able to provide for the type of lifestyle they want to have. It's no fun listening to someone who hates their job and income and then don't do anything about it.
- January 8th, 2009, 04:40 am
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I wouldn't want to be with someone like Donald Trump, but I wouldn't be happy with a guy whose ambition was satisfied bydelivering pizza.


I love what I do and I work very hard. There's no way I'd be compatible withsomeone who thought it was fine coasting along doing the bare minimum.
- January 8th, 2009, 04:58 am
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I live in an area full of very ambitous people. I certainly don't associate that with greed, though -- at least for money. Here it's all about power...lol. In fact, the most powerful jobs are far from being the ones that are the mosty highly compensated. Many people who achieve a high level of education are ambitious, too, but for academic stature and success (e.g., becoming a full professor), not for money. But, success isn't always motivated by ambition, per se; sometimes it's just what comes along with loving what you do and doing it well.


I see ambition as generally a good thing (so you're not just sitting there twidling your thumbs), but as in most things moderation is the key. One can be ambitious without one's ambitions taking over one's life. If achieving "something" is all that drives you, that's not a good thing.


Maybe if I were a little more ambitious about dating, though, I'd have a lot more success...lol.
- January 8th, 2009, 07:00 am
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By any definition, I am very ambitious.
- January 8th, 2009, 07:15 am
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Ambition is important to me and this is why.


To me, ambition means goals. Ambition means you're willing to work for what is important to you. This is a defining attribute because it also shows that a person is willing to better themselves. Ambition doesn't always mean getting ahead. Ambition, to me, means they know they are not perfect, but they're willing to continue to work on themselves, whether it be exercise, school, activities, etc.


Lack of ambition tells me that they just don't care. They're perfectly happy with the status quo. However, these are the same people who can't cope when things do change. I believe lack of ambition leads to stagnation. Stagnation is usualy what kills a relationship.
- January 8th, 2009, 08:20 am
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I think the key is to have a healty balance. Be funny, but know when to be serious. By masculine, but know when to show your sensitive side. Be ambitious, but not so consumed by ambition that your significant other takes a distant second in your life. I have had more than a few conversations with women on this subject, and they'll take ambition every time.
- January 8th, 2009, 08:33 am
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