Yessir is offline Yessir Post #1  January 5,2009, 12:58am
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Ok, Still getting over a relationship that ended months ago(9). The other week I tried to just see how she was doing. She responded and then shortly after she said that, " your a nice guy, but I'm not interested in talking to you." I asked if she could tell me why and she said, " I'm just not interested.'' Do I take this for face value? Because if I think someone is nice I talk to them.
 
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You should leave it alone. Obviously she didnt want to be with you 9 months ago and she doesnt want to be with you now. Even if she still loves you, she's trying to move on. She cant have her ex wanting to be her best buddy no matter how nice he is.
 
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Ok, Still getting over a relationship that ended months ago(9). The other week I tried to just see how she was doing. She responded and then shortly after she said that, " your a nice guy, but I'm not interested in talking to you." I asked if she could tell me why and she said, " I'm just not interested.'' Do I take this for face value? Because if I think someone is nice I talk to them.
Nosir. You should move along.
 
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It means she obviously doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, and she just wants to get over it, and talking to you will make that harder.
 
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Some people have a hard time in giving a more complete direct reason.

2 months and repeating "not interested" is something I'd take at face value. It sounds like she was trying to be polite in just replying. She could have chosen to be mean or ignore you.

I think most people talk to even strangers they don't know...so talking doesn't mean one thinks another is nice or right for them.

You're a nice guy is the cushion for softening the blow...the not interested. Simply it means you aren't the right fit for her but she thinks you are for someone.

Good luck in finding the right person for you!
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I agree with everyone else. To continue to ask her to explain herself will only cause you pain. Sometimes it's difficult for a person to tell another why the spark of attraction isn't there. Don't let this define who you are. Let it go and move on.
 
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"I'm just not interested" means ...

"I'm just not interested".

Let.it.go.
 
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This happened to me recently. Someone I dated along time ago found me on facebook and wanted to "friend me". I accepted as an indication that I was not angry or anything with him for his somewhat aggressive pursuing of our dating relationship, but very quickly he began with his "friendship expectations". Example: "You don't write back soon enough", and becoming demanding in a sick, pathetic way. I'm not saying you are like this, but she may have had experiences like this in her past. She is saying to you that she has some good memories, you're a nice guy, but you belong in the past as some relationship should be left completely ended. Treasure the memories, know she thinks well of you, and move on... the best is yet to come!
 
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Yessir wrote :
Ok, Still getting over a relationship that ended months ago(9). The other week I tried to just see how she was doing. She responded and then shortly after she said that, " your a nice guy, but I'm not interested in talking to you." I asked if she could tell me why and she said, " I'm just not interested.'' Do I take this for face value? Because if I think someone is nice I talk to them.

Without knowing much about the relationship it is hard to guess on motivations for talking with her. I know that when my ex and I broke up, I was heart broken and one of the hardest things to do was tell her that we could not be friends. I am considered one of the nice guys as well, but for me personally, it was the right thing to do. Life has been great since I did that. For you Yessir, I would say just take it at face value. You made an attempt, detached of emotions (i'm guessing) and she doesn't want that. You tried and there is never anything wrong with trying. Move on and just know that at least she thinks of you as a nice guy. You can't change people's minds when they are made up. Don't let this change who you are and definitely don't let it cause an emotional whirlwind. Best of luck.
 
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