iammclovin is offline iammclovin Post #1  January 4,2009, 10:59pm
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Well I met my girlfriend on Facebook in like early november or so. After talking to each other for about two weeks, we met in person since the two of us live like 15 miles apart. we hit it off right away once me met in person for the 1st date. Enter date number 2, i asked ehr to be my girl and she said yes.


It's been about 6 weeks since we officially became a couple. the first two weeks were great. we talked a lot, there was a great physical conection, and her friends seemed to like me. we had a fight about a month in over the dumbest little thing. She appoligizes after i stoppe talkin to ehr for a 3-day period, and we were happy again.





What's bothering me is the fact that on New Years eve, seh didn't want to do anything but stay home for the night. seh still invites me to coem over. the thing that really got me was that she pushed me away as iw as goin for a kiss when the ball dropped. now were barley talking at this point, and I want to re-ignite that flame we had early on. Any Suggestions?
 
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dwreese182 is offline dwreese182 Post #2  January 4,2009, 11:14pm
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Ouch, pulling away from on New Years is a low blow. If you are having troubles this early on why continue?


What makes you want to be a part of this relationship?
 
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Well, I wonder why you didnt flat out ask her what was wrong when she pulled away?? Obviously there is a bigger issue at play. But, a girl who is not interested, will not invite you over to hang out for NYE. It sounds like you two are playing those, sorry to say, high school games. Youare both beat around the bushinstead ofcommunicating your feelings through conversation. Texts even! My gosh, anything to get it out there, in the open.


IMHO, nobody here in EA can tell you whats truly going on with her. The only one who knows the answer is her. IDK, maybe she is paying you back for not talking to her for 3 days. And if you say the fight was over something stupid, why did you not talk to her for 3 days? It sounds like there is a communication problem here. Just call her, take her out to a nice dinner and flat out ask her whats going on. You need to make your intentions clear and then maybe she will let you in on what shes feeling. It will all work itself out.
 
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An alternative thought from argytunes:


Maybe your girlfriend has grown comfortable spending New Years Eve alone...or with her family. So your invitation to "ring in 2009" with a full-blown date bothered her a little?


6 weeks of courtship doesn't necessarily mean a lifetime of commitment. You've gotseveral holidays coming up (Valentines Day/her birthday/special events in her life, etc.) that you can celebrate. If shecontinues to turnyou down...then you might want to reconsider giving yourselves a little space until SHE'S READY!


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Maybe she's a homebody, like me. Nothing wrong with that, unless your the type that wants to go out all the time.


About pushing you away from a kiss, did you check your breath? Gum will fix that. =)
 
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iammclovin, wrote :

" now were barley talking at this point, and I want to re-ignite that flame we had early on. Any Suggestions?"
This may not be the most popular answer, but maybe flames aren't what you should be looking for so early on in a relationship. I don't know about you, but I'm looking for a lifetime commitment, not just some chick to "be my girl." These things take time, but once you throw physicality into the mix it muddies all of the other stuff you should be focusing on to see if you're compatible.


Just like on the highway, excess speed in a relationship can be dangerous.
 
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sweetT,415251 wrote :

Gum will fix that. =)
Funny and true!
 
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iammclovin, wrote :

Well I met my girlfriend on Facebook in like early november or so. After talking to each other for about two weeks, we met in person since the two of us live like 15 miles apart. we hit it off right away once me met in person for the 1st date. Enter date number 2, i asked ehr to be my girl and she said yes.


It's been about 6 weeks since we officially became a couple. the first two weeks were great. we talked a lot, there was a great physical conection, and her friends seemed to like me. we had a fight about a month in over the dumbest little thing. She appoligizes after i stoppe talkin to ehr for a 3-day period, and we were happy again.





What's bothering me is the fact that on New Years eve, seh didn't want to do anything but stay home for the night. seh still invites me to coem over. the thing that really got me was that she pushed me away as iw as goin for a kiss when the ball dropped. now were barley talking at this point, and I want to re-ignite that flame we had early on. Any Suggestions?
Sounds like you got involved way too fast before you knew if you two were truly compatable. Clearly the communication is wacked out and you need to sit down together and get clear about what the other is thinking. It's only been six weeks and you guys are already at odds? Not a good sign.
 
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Songryder,415286 wrote :

iammclovin, wrote :


Well I met my girlfriend on Facebook in like early november or so. After talking to each other for about two weeks, we met in person since the two of us live like 15 miles apart. we hit it off right away once me met in person for the 1st date. Enter date number 2, i asked ehr to be my girl and she said yes.


It's been about 6 weeks since we officially became a couple. the first two weeks were great. we talked a lot, there was a great physical conection, and her friends seemed to like me. we had a fight about a month in over the dumbest little thing. She appoligizes after i stoppe talkin to ehr for a 3-day period, and we were happy again.





What's bothering me is the fact that on New Years eve, seh didn't want to do anything but stay home for the night. seh still invites me to coem over. the thing that really got me was that she pushed me away as iw as goin for a kiss when the ball dropped. now were barley talking at this point, and I want to re-ignite that flame we had early on. Any Suggestions?


Sounds like you got involved way too fast before you knew if you two were truly compatable. Clearly the communication is wacked out and you need to sit down together and get clear about what the other is thinking. It's only been six weeks and you guys are already at odds? Not a good sign.
well i talked with hr, and well to keep it short and sweet, we arent together anymore. so ya, i'm single again.
 
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I'm sorry to hear that you've broken up, but only sorry because it sucks breaking up. However, I feel like maybe you did jump in to quickly. Having only 1 date before asking her to be your "girl" is way too soon. And yes, it sounds like you were both playing little games with each other. Next time, date for a while before becoming steady. Make sure the first date wasn't just a fluke or something. Make sure she is really who/what you think she is. And WHEN you have a disagreement (because, yes, you will)...GET IT OUT IN THE OPEN. Don't ignore her for several days. That's like trying to punish her. Never works. Good luck with the next one!
 
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