I met a guy online but then saw him at a bar before we actually decided to meet in person. We hit things off really well and have been dating for a year and a half. In the beginning things were great but over time we enver communicaed and things seemed okay to the naked eye but on the inside we were both pulling away. I have never fallen out of love with him though.
We have done a lot of fun things togeter and get along really well but he does have a problem with drinking when we go out. He will drink too much and get nasty w me. When i bring it up he gets really mad and flips out. So i really try not to bring things up when he drinks...
Trying to make a long story short but this is kinda hard... I only see him every weekend because during the week all he does is play work and softball and sometimes when he has it on th weekend i dont get to see him either.
I have done nothing but help him in every aspect of his life. i helped him get a job, get back into school, and other things i could do to make him happy. thats just how i am...
anyway on new years when the ball dropped and everyone ws kissing we werent. just standing there like idiots. he made a comment that was nasty at 1159 and i was upset by it.
When we got in the car to leave i tried to bring up our problems but because he was so drunk he didnt want to hear me and just kept being really mean. finally he said he wanted a break and some time to think.


i tried to respect him and called the next day to see if he would talk to me and he said no. i emailed him my feeling since he wouldnt listen to me and didnt get a respnce back. so the next night i texted telling him that i loved him and missed him and responded back saying that he misses me too and that he think that this time apart is the best for the both of us. I am trying to respect that and not text/call/email or go to the bars that he would be at, but my main question is is how long do i give him? i asked him if he wanted to see other people and he said not at all... so what do i do? i feel pathetic and love him and want him back but he wont listen to me. how long of a break do i give him? i was going to give him a call next friday to try and meet up to talk and if he says no then i was going to tell him that he obviously doent have feelings for me and break it off. i dont want to be anyones fool.


ok sorry so long and i hope you can help. thanks a lot

break it off... the drinking problem should be a deal breaker and the way he acts when he drinks makes it even more so. fro mwhat you say there seem to be a good amount of negative issues that he is unwilling to even attempt to work on resolving... getting mean about things when you bring it up seems to make me feel as though he knows he has issues and doesnt wish to bring them up or even recognize they are there.


the drinking only adds to this; if it wasnt for the drinking i would suggest trying to a bit more to work on the real issues but since that is in the picture, i dont think its worth it. not only that but he seems to have reservations about his feelings toward you or he is playing games - both of which are the end of a beneficial relationship.


i hope it works out for you, i've had my share of women with drinking problems and while i try not to put everything in one neat little pile, i can tell you by my own experiences, its better to just kick him to the curb and move on.





-keys