Long-Distance Relationship Survival Guide

Long-Distance Relationship Survival Guide

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Long-distance relationships can make you want to kick the shins of the one who said, "Distance makes the heart grow fonder." Give yourself a break from plaguing doubts and fears and read this.
 
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115Ruth is offline 115Ruth Post #2  May 1,2007, 4:59pm
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This article is right on. And it was very reassuring to read it because it affirmed that what we are doing so far is good stuff!
 
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Great article and advice. We are in a relationship that requires a 5-6 hour drive and so far, IT IS WORTH IT!!!! We decided from the beginning that we preferred quality over quantity!
 
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Oh thank goodness for all that valuable information. I have been seeing a wonderful man who lives a hour and 20 minute flight away from me. I have been driving myself bananas with doubts and fears, and to know that this is "normal" is reassuring. I agree with Tammy that quality is nice, and we always have quality weekends when we meet up which is on average every 6 weeks. And here's wishing that one day there will be quantity :-)
 
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I agree whole-heartedly with everything Ms. Coleman detailed in this article. And her last statement saying, "There are three things that make for a happy, healthy and stable relationship: Personal independence and growth, mutual commitment and great communication—even through the tough times," is RIGHT ON POINT!! Having been through one l.d. relationship where the girl was open and talkative with me versus the latest one I am coming out of where the girl closed up and shut down every time I would open up to her and "need" her to share with me her emotions, has given me the knowing that I am a man who needs a woman that likes talking and sharing about their feelings and emotions out in the open without requiring me to have to piss her off to the point where she then communicates to me her feelings in order to get me to back off - cuz the latter situation is not healthy for either person: emotionally or physically.
 
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Yes indeed this article certainly highlights th ups and downs of a long distance relationships that one faces.
And it has been very helpful in helping me understand what it take to make it work and will certainly follow some of the advise give.
 
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I have been seeing someone two hours away. Its a four hour driving commitment in one night if we go to the others home town. I am a Christian who is keeping myself from sex before marriage but it seems to make sense to stay the night... and not at a hotel... so we can be together for the weekend. Any advice out there based on experience???
 
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I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. He lives three hours away, so we stay at each other's house one weekend a month. We're also waiting til marriage. I sleep in my bed and he likes to sleep on the living room couch. We plan dates, go out with friends and take as many pictures as possible when we're together. The last sentence in this article is definitely right on.
 
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I will be moving around for the next year or so and this article makes me feel better about working on my relationship at the same time when so many people around me are yelling, "career first!."
 
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Reading these comments makes me wonder what it would be like to only be 2 or 3 hours away from my significant other....
We were matched up here 2 months ago, and just met for the first time in person last month. We are having a great time getting to know each other and it's going wonderfully and we're really happy. We talk every evening .. when the rates are cheaper!... and I will go visit him this next month. He came to see me when we met for the first time.
The drawback here is that we are 730 miles away from each other! I'm in Indiana and he's in Alabama!
Obviously the advice given here is extremely helpful to our situation and we're grateful for it. We both understand that dealing with the distance factor takes a lot of work, so we are being optimistic and patient because our relationship IS worth it.
Thanks again for the great article!
 
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