Reading these different opinions has been very interesting. I have friends - an artist couple - who I'm told are swingers. Based on what I know about them, this is probably true. There have been times when I've been in their presence,and they've broached the subject of sex in a casual manner suggesting they were leading into another aspect of that subject. Each time I smoothly led the subject to something else.


While I am open-minded about most things,swinging is not one of them. I would even say I am judgementalregarding this subject. I would say that I am judgemental in terms of forming a certain perception of people who practice this. That perception would be that a breakdown in intimacy has occurred between couplesresorting to this practice.


I cannot stress enough the importance of a coupledeveloping intimacy within a relationship not only for the purpose of overall fulfillment, butalso for the purpose of sexual fulfillment. Not only can sexual fulfillment occur regularlywithin a monagomous relationshipwhere true intimacy is present, it is possible to have out-of-this world sex with onepartner for the restof your lifeif you have taken the time to develop this area.I know for certain that your sexual relationship can be developed to its maxium potential witha partner whobelieves the same. Unfortunately, this type of relationship does not happen with most couples. They often grow tired of each other, with the sexual relationship being the first thing to go.


This is more likely to happen with couples who view their sexual relationship from a primarily physical perspective, not recognizing the range of emotional involvement that contributes to a rich and rewarding sexual relationship. It is the emotions that fuel that experience. The body is simply the vehicle.


Bringing another person or persons into your relationshipassures that the intimacy necessary for such an experiencehas been compromised, if not destroyed.

Breezy26 and Glider_Pilot.....


NOOOOOO, I'm not still with him. I would NEVER consider dating him again, though I have felt guilty at times that I have not at least maintained a friendship with him. But after what I know he is into now, and his carefree attitude about it, and his insistance on talking about it, I have actually blocked him from my email and IM, and put his number in my phone as "do not answer".


Yes Breezy...I am a Christian, and no he is not. When we were dating several years ago, I was not living the way I should have been. Since everything in my personal life happened, I DID get my faith back where it needs to be, have regained my trust in Christ, and would not "date" him again. When we started talking again, I was hoping that something in him would have changed, but I now realize that this is a situation I need to completely seperate myself from. There is nothing I can do other than pray for him.


Yes, I know many of you on here will slam me for saying he needs to be prayed for, but I can't/won't apologize for that.