5 Reasons She Doesn't Want to Sleep with You

5 Reasons She Doesn't Want to Sleep with You

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You and your girlfriend are compatible, happy, but haven't taken it to a more serious level. Find out what her reasons might be for not wanting to get that close.
 
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LonelyStarState is offline LonelyStarState Post #2  November 1,2008, 12:25pm

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1. her real life boyfriend will get upset


2. she likes having you take her out, give her attentionand pay for everything...but thats about it


3. she has repressed electra complex


4.she's still decidingbetween you,1cool_stud, dr1970_MD, ytown_cop and 1hungl0w


5.neither of you can afford to keep flying over 450 miles for a booty call
 
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I think I need to translate and hand this out to all potential suitors.
 
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Maybe she really wants to like you, but there is no chemistry. Or maybe you are playing "grab hands" and she wants candle light and long slow deep kisses. Or maybe you need a mint Or maybe she's boinking someone else and hasn't decided if she is going to go exclusive with you so she doesn't know if she should sleep with you. Ask her! lol
 
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Why sweat the details: she doesn't want to sleep with you and, maybe, even she doesn't know why. Simply respect her decision and live with it or move on.
 
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Would it be appropiate to send this to a match who poofed because I wouldn't sleep with him on the second date?
 
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1) you are a game player!


2) not the right Chemistry


3) That trusting feeling just isn't there!


4) It just wasn't meant to be


5) You first have to spend time together, have fun, laught, grow, trust - good friendship


time will tell ..... It must be SPECIAL!!!
 
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If you are just starting to get to know one another, don't rush into the sex thing. Sex is Only one part of the whole being compatible scenerio. Whether you are together, or apart, do you feel the anxiety pulse thru your veins? If so spend more time with her doing other types of fun stuff, the sex thing will happen when the time is right, don't push it. Do things together and have fun.


If she is indecisive about making choices about where to go for dinner, what movie to see all the time (that's a good wake up call, she's probably not really interested in spending time with you, but she wants you to be around).


If she got a new job and says she has to work late (till 2am sometimes), be wary of this, chances are she IS at the job, but more likely she's got a new fish hooked!


If she really doesn't want to spend time going out with you and other couples, but would rather spend time on the computer (doing work projects)....that's an eye opener too.


You really have to decide what you REALLY want, thats the bottom question. some feel that persuing the sex issue right away, would mean that both of you feel having (good) sex is high on you end of compatibilities, But once the magic wears off you have nothing else to do together. so leave the sex out of it for now. work on other fun things to do. when it comes to sex, she'll know when the time is right...and then let you know. have fun1
 
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LonelyStarState,317896 wrote :

1. her real life boyfriend will get upset


2. she likes having you take her out, give her attention and pay for everything... but thats about it


3. she has repressed electra complex


4. she's still deciding between you, 1cool_stud, dr1970_MD, ytown_cop and 1hungl0w


5. neither of you can afford to keep flying over 450 miles for a booty call
Find a new Lady Friend.... do you want to be number 1 in her life or 2 on the back burner.


She is using you!!!!! The old saying: She wants her cake and eat it too.


You are too GOOD FOR HER!!! Wake up and smell the Roses....


I don't care what she LOOKS LIKE ETC>.. We all change in time....


I know It's easy to say, but get on with life and let her roll dear! AND by the WAY!~!!!


Why can't she take you out and PAY FOR EVERTHING - turn the tables!!!!


It's her time to treat you if she cares!
 
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99999999,318175 wrote :

LonelyStarState,317896 wrote :


1. her real life boyfriend will get upset


2. she likes having you take her out, give her attention and pay for everything... but thats about it


3. she has repressed electra complex


4. she's still deciding between you, 1cool_stud, dr1970_MD, ytown_cop and 1hungl0w


5. neither of you can afford to keep flying over 450 miles for a booty call


Find a new Lady Friend.... do you want to be number 1 in her life or 2 on the back burner.


She is using you!!!!! The old saying: She wants her cake and eat it too.


You are too GOOD FOR HER!!! Wake up and smell the Roses....


I don't care what she LOOKS LIKE ETC>.. We all change in time....


I know It's easy to say, but get on with life and let her roll dear! AND by the WAY!~!!!


Why can't she take you out and PAY FOR EVERTHING - turn the tables!!!!


It's her time to treat you if she cares!




we're both lesbians and VERY compatable. its just that sometimes she just treats me terribly and it hurts my feelings very much especially when i see her hanging around her male friends.


sometimes i go to bed crying.


i don't know what to do. should i stay with her or seek other lesbians on eh?
 
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