Can Men and Women Really Just be Friends?

Can Men and Women Really Just be Friends?

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eharmonyadvice is offline eharmonyadvice — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  October 23,2008, 4:01pm

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Men, women and friendship? It's a question that's been debated for ages so read on as we explore this hot topic!
 
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We are revising this? I just saw the older member made version a few minutes ago.
 
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argytunes is offline argytunes Post #4  October 24,2008, 10:14am
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Long-distance friendships have a tendency to last longer than exclusive long-distance relationships! With the first option, there's the freedom to communicate as often or as little as you wish to! But in a committed long-distance relationship...remaining in contact indefinitely is damn near impossible...unless one partner chooses to relocate closer to the other!


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Yes they can, it's all in how you start off. Everyone's intentions have to be revealed from the start.
 
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One of my best friends is an ex-girlfriend. We dated for about a year, and were miserable with each other. But because we went to law school together and shared many of our courses through no choice of our own, we decided to remain civil. That was the best thing that could have happened. Some of my best friends are women. Would I date some of them? Absolutely, but I sense that it would not be as good an experience as our friendship.
 
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Um. No they can't.


For a very long time I subscribed to the "yes they can" bit. But when i added up all the men who were my friend yet dropped the friendship as soon as they found a significant other I had to admit the truth.


They never saw me as a friend. They were waiting for it to turn into something. So they were my friend under secret conditions. I was just too ignorant to realize it.
 
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Been here...done this.. posted a very long. thoughtful and far fetched opinion.....follow the threads and don't waste our time again.
 
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My best friend for the last fourteen years, and every body thinks that me and her have a secret relationship. It makes it hard on both of are relationships her boyfriends get jelous, and girls are turned away from me at bars becuse she thinks I'm with her. Its diffuclt but I dont think I would go though so much crap for any other person, and the idea of sex has never even come up. It would be well to disgusting.
 
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I have a few guys who I think of as friends but I know that they would like more if I was not married or would give into their suggestive comments. I just pass off the comments butI stillfeel the tension.
 
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