First time you had sex with your partner?


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angelhair is offline angelhair Post #1  October 23,2008, 11:07am
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I've heard of people waiting until marriage to have sex and people who had sex the first night they met and still managed to have a successfult long-term relationship.


How soon did you have sex with your partner? If you waited for sex, were you doing other things to "substitute" sex or did you always keep it above the waist? What elements in the relationship would you say made it last this long?
 
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Can't answer....I'd have to have a partner, or even a date, to be able to.
 
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Dafearon is offline Dafearon Post #3  October 23,2008, 11:56am
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My current relationship, it took 4 months. Before sex, we weren't really that physical with each other, and it sort of...just happened.


The relationship before, a week, but only because we had known each other for 15 years before. Another relationship, I slept with her first and then started a relationship with her.


It really depends on BOTH side. If both sides have the motive of furthering the relationship, then when they have sex is not as important as if they are comfortable with it. If they are not comfortable with that level of intimacy, then they shouldn't have sex. If they are, waiting matters not. Its only when one person has ulterior motives, and the other has totally different one is when the sex starts to ruin things in a relationship.
 
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PY is offline PY Post #4  October 23,2008, 12:14pm

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I've made mistakes in the past (haven't we all), but in my next relationship, I'm perfectly fine to wait until marriage.
 
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angelhair, wrote :

I've heard of people waiting until marriage to have sex and people who had sex the first night they met and still managed to have a successfult long-term relationship.


How soon did you have sex with your partner? If you waited for sex, were you doing other things to "substitute" sex or did you always keep it above the waist? What elements in the relationship would you say made it last this long?

I agree with other posts here, that it depends on who it is an the circumstances. I waited a year to have sex with on partner and as little as a week with another. My relationships are long term. I was married for 15 years and then had a boyfriend for 2 years after being single from the divorce for 5 years. We won't discuss my 20's
 
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What is SEX?
 
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PY is offline PY Post #7  October 23,2008, 1:43pm

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It's kinda like playing Twister and Jenga, lots of balancing, left hand on blue, right leg on red, only more fun (so I've heard).
 
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