WaterHound is offline WaterHound Post #11  October 24,2008, 4:51am
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In case you didnt get the clear messages above...this guy is not even worth a discussion much less a well thought out letter: IMHO, just bail now. He clearly has no respect for you.
 
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Sounds like you need couples counselling.
 
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gr8galmv is offline gr8galmv Post #13  October 24,2008, 12:31pm
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You don't sound like the girlfriend or the daughter. You sound like a doormat.


I already have a great father, I don't need another one. Neither should you.
 
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BradB31 is offline BradB31 Post #14  October 24,2008, 1:04pm
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ChasingDreams, wrote :

I have been in a relationship with this guy for over a year now. Of course as with most new relationships the first few months are amazing but that only lasts but so long. Lately I have been battling with this issue of am I the GF or the daughter?





This afternoon I had phoned my BF and explained to him that we needed to talk due to issues that have been going on back and forth with us. I asked when would be a good time to avoid any distractions. I basically wanted him to be open and not defensive about our conversation. I said I would email him the topics of concern so he has an idea of where I wanted the conversation to go. Due to family issues I texted him and told him that I did not get a chance to do the email but will do so soon.


I proceeded to create a word document so I can prepare my feelings and thoughts. As I sat at the computer to do this I get an email asking me why I was on the computer and why I wasn't tending to my children like a mother should. Of course my first reaction is defensive so I put it back on him stating that if he was with his kids and working why would I be the wrong one for being on the computer if infact HE had to use the computer to email me.


The wonderful email:


Him: Get Off of the computer and take care of your kids, what a joke, you will never
change, you are going backwards, whatever.


Me: I just spent the last 30 minutes typing up what I called you about earlier. I will save the document for another time. Apparently this isn't the right time to discuss anything.





So with that being said, what is your take on this type of situation?
Nobody ever wants to hear the words "we have to talk" so thats most likely the reason he jumped down your throat with cheap shots.
 
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I know that you said you didn't want him to be defensive, but when a guy hears 'we need to talk' he's going to be defensive, period, the end. That probably explains the cheap shots and low blows. Not that they were OK, and in fact it sounds to me like you should just get rid of this one, but I can guarantee you that's what it brought it on.


You cannot say the words 'we need to talk' without a guy becoming defensive. Never going to happen.
 
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