Would you consider this verbal abuse or just plain truth?


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This is exactly how relationships become sexless over time and pave the path for infidelity. Then of course it is the cheater's fault.


And you're an expert on long-term relationships. right?
Well, I am not divorced. That itself puts me on the top decile as a relationship expert.
 
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Guys, abuse is when someone hits someone else. Grow a thicker skin.
 
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RRoland,296623 wrote :

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This is exactly how relationships become sexless over time and pave the path for infidelity. Then of course it is the cheater's fault.


And you're an expert on long-term relationships. right?


Well, I am not divorced. That itself puts me on the top decile as a relationship expert.
We learn more from our failures than from our successes. Though I suspect many of those divorced had relationships that lasted longer than any of yours. Just sayin'
 
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RRoland,296627 wrote :

Guys, abuse is when someone hits someone else. Grow a thicker skin.
Yes, the thicker the skin, the less painful those physical blows are.
 
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peg099,296641 wrote :

RRoland,296623 wrote :


peg099,295478 wrote :


RRoland,295415 wrote :


This is exactly how relationships become sexless over time and pave the path for infidelity. Then of course it is the cheater's fault.


And you're an expert on long-term relationships. right?


Well, I am not divorced. That itself puts me on the top decile as a relationship expert.


We learn more from our failures than from our successes. Though I suspect many of those divorced had relationships that lasted longer than any of yours. Just sayin'
Therefore the Nobel prize should be given to high school drop outs.


I am smart enough to know when not to get involved in a relationship that is destined to fail. Most people aren't.
 
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It's not verbal abuse or plain truth rather it's plain immaturity and childishness; since I don't get my way, I'll throw a tantrum. BUT there are always three sides to a story, your's, his and the truth. Maybe it's come to that time when you both need to sit down, be brave and redefine your relationship so as it can move forward. If you both brush this under the rug without being truthful, it'll be the beginning of the end.
 
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peg099,296644 wrote :

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Guys, abuse is when someone hits someone else. Grow a thicker skin.


Yes, the thicker the skin, the less painful those physical blows are.
Look, emotional abuse is all in the mind.
 
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It's not verbal abuse or plain truth rather it's plain immaturity and childishness; since I don't get my way, I'll throw a tantrum. BUT there are always three sides to a story, your's, his and the truth. Maybe it's come to that time when you both need to sit down, be brave and redefine your relationship so as it can move forward. If you both brush this under the rug without being truthful, it'll be the beginning of the end.
I agree that it is immature and childish. But women like to mother, no?
 
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I experienced something very similar at one point. It doesn't get better. It's significant that this happened after you moved in with him, because it sounds like he was waiting to show his true colors until he was sure he'd "secured" you.


If he's not willing to go to anger management counseling or even admit that he has a problem...you've got a lot to think about.


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Isn't anger management for people who throw stuff and such?
 
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