Would you consider this verbal abuse or just plain truth?


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Lindsey0367 is offline Lindsey0367 Post #101  February 2,2009, 6:58pm
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louie1a,467269 wrote :

and don't go shacking up with guys because you want to play house. take the time to really get to know someone and then marry them. a year isn't enuf. witness this seeming incident coming out of nowhere. if there were no signs up till move in date, then it proves a year isn't enuf.

Your response was really insightful until you got to this. Why would you make such an insulting presumption that someone would move in with someone because they wanted to 'play house'?


There are all kinds of factors that could be going on here. And if I were the person posting this topic, I would have thrown all the insightful things right out the window because of this one comment.
 
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RRoland,292717 wrote :

I would leave him. How dare he ask for sex every night.
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asking for sex every nite is not the point. did you read the original commentary? i don't think so.
 
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MudSlideSlim,299562 wrote :

sarcasticpsycho, wrote :


What if you just moved in with your boyfriend after a year of dating and one night you were too tired to have sex (great sex life every night) and he got mad, jumped up and started to put his pants on and yelled "well if you arnt going to give me any I have 2 on speed dial a lot better than you ever thought about being". The next day afteryou manage to removeyour heart fromyour stomach he proceeds to tellyou that he was sorry and that hesaid it out of anger. Would that be considered verbal abuse or just plain truth? Could you ever trust that person to be faithful to you?


Two questions:


What were you thinkin' about when you moved in with him?


Why are you still there?
finally. someone who understands what's going on here. kudos MSS.
 
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Proceed to the nearest exit.... It is only going to get worse......
 
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sarcasticpsycho,292860 wrote :

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Oh my gawd, RR you're ridiculous ... we're humans here, not neanderthals. Why you pickin a fight in every thread? Just sayin ... you might be a little bit TOO bored.


S/p ... sounds like that was really uncool and not very safe.


We teach others how to treat us, so if you decide to let this slide, you might not be surprised to see it to happen again.


Oh, believe me I didnt let it slide. Now its a matter of getting it out of my head.
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first of all, your moniker speaks volumes. second, you say you didn't let it slide. what does that mean? now is a matter of getting it our of your head? what did you do to not let it slide? kill him? and what good does getting it our of your head do, if , in fact, you can actually do that?





i recommend getting him outof your life. what he did (said), according to you, is unthinkable. this is just the beginning of hell on earth for you, if you stay.


however, i've already written a lot about this issue, but now i'm thinking that a woman who calls herself sarcasticpsycho may have played a role in this that may not have been so innocent. what sarcastic remark did you make before he threatened to speed dial a couple of women who would give him better sex than you? Did you push him to the brink with sarcasm before he blurted out those unthinkable remarks? ; Are you really the victim here? what would the boyfriend say if we put him up on the stand? maybe you just pushed him beyond his levelof self control.





how about responding to these questions?
 
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louie1a,469706 wrote :

how about responding to these questions?
I doubt she's going to respond to a 3.5 month old post. Especially when in another more recent thread (as in 2.5 months ago), she said she left the guy.
 
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trailviews,470287 wrote :

louie1a,469706 wrote :


how about responding to these questions?

I doubt she's going to respond to a 3.5 month old post. Especially when in another more recent thread (as in 2.5 months ago), she said she left the guy.
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interesting comment. sarcasticpsycho is not the only one on this board who may have gotten into an abusive/destructive relationship. the age of the post and the likelyhood of her responding and the fact that she may have already left are irrelevant. this subject matter and the discussion may serve to wake up some other poor souls who are emotionally stuck in similar situations.
 
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sarcasticpsycho, wrote :

What if you just moved in with your boyfriend after a year of dating and one night you were too tired to have sex (great sex life every night) and he got mad, jumped up and started to put his pants on and yelled "well if you arnt going to give me any I have 2 on speed dial a lot better than you ever thought about being". The next day afteryou manage to removeyour heart fromyour stomach he proceeds to tellyou that he was sorry and that hesaid it out of anger. Would that be considered verbal abuse or just plain truth? Could you ever trust that person to be faithful to you?
he is an insensitive jerk, and only god can help him. you desreve much better if don't believe that well you just have another issue to deal with. Where did you get this jerk from?
 
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