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I found out that my husband has been cheating on me with at least 3 different women. We have been married for 5 years and just had our 2 child together 6 months ago. Of course he is telling me that it is nothing going on and that he loves me and don't want me to leave. last night he came home late and smelled like sex, I went to have sex with him and he could not get hard, I told him that it was ok I did not want to anymore and he got mad at me and started an argument. I felt that was a sign that he was guilty. I don't know if I should just leave him. Please help.
- September 26th, 2008, 07:11 am
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You mean...leave a man who is cheating on you with multiple women....blames you for his own behavior...and justifies his cheating by saying 'it's nothing'? Gee....why would you want to miss all that abuse and emotional pain? Of course you need to leave him! And....the fact that you wanted to have sex with a man that you know has been cheating on you and who even 'smelled like sex' at the time....would seem to indicate you have some emotional issues you need to get dealt with. I'd say....talk to some friends...get professional counseling....and a lawyer. Good luck.
- September 26th, 2008, 08:31 am
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love16, wrote :

I found out that my husband has been cheating on me with at least 3 different women. We have been married for 5 years and just had our 2 child together 6 months ago. Of course he is telling me that it is nothing going on and that he loves me and don't want me to leave. last night he came home late and smelled like sex, I went to have sex with him and he could not get hard, I told him that it was ok I did not want to anymore and he got mad at me and started an argument. I felt that was a sign that he was guilty. I don't know if I should just leave him. Please help.
Having sex with a man whose cheating on you with 3 or more women? No wonder he can't get it up. I'll bet youmy favorite flannel pajamas he's not using protection, so I'd stay as far away from being in bed with this guy as you can. He's an STD waiting to happen.


Don't let him project his guilt on you. I'm hijacking from other statements posted here, but c'mon Sweetie, this red flag is big enough to cover the state of Texas. There's no excuse on the planethe can possibly give to cover his ass on this one.
- September 26th, 2008, 08:54 am
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I'm sorry you're going through this. Your husband sounds like a womanizer. What was he like before you married him?How long have you suspected him of cheating? JayJay gave good advice nothing to add to that.
- September 26th, 2008, 08:58 am
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Our relationship was very nice and I enjoyed being with him, he was my best friend until we got married. Things started going down hill other people was in our marriage and he lost 3 very close family members to death back to back that really did not help. I have tried talking to him and he keep tell me that he wants to make our marriage work. I started noticing things 3 months after I had my baby.
- September 26th, 2008, 09:17 am
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Do you see that you're defending him and making excuses for his behavior? I think if you want to help yourself the best thing to do at the moment is to accept that you don't have a clear picture of what is going on....get out and get counseling. But, maybe all you're looking for here is support and justification for staying with him. In that case....I'm out.
- September 26th, 2008, 09:30 am
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I actually had a doctor in an emergency room prescribe getting a good lawyer! Just sayin' don't wait until you end up in the emergency room.


Just get out!
- September 26th, 2008, 09:41 am
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love16 wrote :

Our relationship was very nice and I enjoyed being with him, he was my best friend until we got married. Things started going down hill other people was in our marriage and he lost 3 very close family members to death back to back that really did not help. I have tried talking to him and he keep tell me that he wants to make our marriage work. I started noticing things 3 months after I had my baby.
So by saying your relationship was very nice and you enjoyed being with him and he was your best friend before marriage, I take it you're saying he wasn't a womanizer before you married him and he didn't display any of those traits?You're saying that "life happened" i.e. death back to back and other things and this drove him into the arms of those 3women?
- September 26th, 2008, 09:48 am
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After 3 affairs, honey, it's time for you to get a lawyer, get some counseling and leave him. Trust me, I wore out this same t-shirt!!!
- September 26th, 2008, 09:54 am
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Yes, get counselling and protect yourself and your children!
- September 26th, 2008, 10:21 am
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