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HurrMark is offline HurrMark Post #1  September 25,2008, 3:11pm
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I had a bad feeling this was going to happen, but it happened. She is breaking up with me. The reason? I am a 30 year old virgin who is unfamiliar with what to do with a woman in bed. This is killing me to no end...not just the breakup but the fact that if this is how women are, I might as well never even try again. It's heartbreaking to so many degrees, and shows that I will never have luck with relationships ever. I curse my Asperger's Syndrome and everything about it. ;-(
 
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HurrMark, wrote :

I had a bad feeling this was going to happen, but it happened. She is breaking up with me. The reason? I am a 30 year old virgin who is unfamiliar with what to do with a woman in bed. This is killing me to no end...not just the breakup but the fact that if this is how women are, I might as well never even try again. It's heartbreaking to so many degrees, and shows that I will never have luck with relationships ever. I curse my Asperger's Syndrome and everything about it. ;-(
This is NOT how all women are. She doesn't deserve you. If that's her reason for breaking up with you, then you are better off without her. I know it doesn't seem like it now and that just stinks. don't give up on finding "the right one"!!
 
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A 30 year old virgin? What's wrong with that?? Nothing, I say! I agree... she doesn't deserve you. Maybe, she has no real clue to know what to do to/with you?! If she can't wait until at least you are married to herthen, she's not worth having. You have been waiting this long for the Right One... why ruin it??
 
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PosiTiv65,271934 wrote :

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I had a bad feeling this was going to happen, but it happened. She is breaking up with me. The reason? I am a 30 year old virgin who is unfamiliar with what to do with a woman in bed. This is killing me to no end...not just the breakup but the fact that if this is how women are, I might as well never even try again. It's heartbreaking to so many degrees, and shows that I will never have luck with relationships ever. I curse my Asperger's Syndrome and everything about it. ;-(


This is NOT how all women are. She doesn't deserve you. If that's her reason for breaking up with you, then you are better off without her. I know it doesn't seem like it now and that just stinks. don't give up on finding "the right one"!!
Mark


I have to agree with PosiTiv, this is NOT how all women are. It's true that there are some women who would be turned off by a man at a certain age who is not sexually knowledgeable. But there are also those who might be specially looking for someone who is not experienced...perhaps because they are not experienced themselves. Despite what tv and the movies would have us believe, there are plenty of people out there (both men and women) in their 20s, 30s, or even older who are not quick to jump into someone's bed, whether for religious or personal reasons.


Bottom line is, I understand that you feel bad right now, but don't ever give up! And don't blame the AS either...trust me, there are plenty of "normal" guys and girls out there who are virgins as well. Lastly, if you need someone to talk to about this, you know where to find me [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img]
 
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buddhabill,271980 wrote :

Just get back up and go for it again...........
I agree with this statement.


I always had a sense that there was some kind of double standard going on here for men and for women. Men are supposed to be sexually active at an early age and women are supposed to wait. Who says that there's a correct time limit to wait for sex? I've never seen anything written in stone anywhere about this. Some "cultural norms" have to be broken.


Don't let this get you down. Keep looking and the right person will come along.
 
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HurrMark, wrote :


I had a bad feeling this was going to happen, but it happened. She is breaking up with me. The reason? I am a 30 year old virgin who is unfamiliar with what to do with a woman in bed. This is killing me to no end...not just the breakup but the fact that if this is how women are, I might as well never even try again. It's heartbreaking to so many degrees, and shows that I will never have luck with relationships ever. I curse my Asperger's Syndrome and everything about it. ;-(


Just because you are 30 years old and you are a virgin doesn't mean you have to be unfamiliar with what to do with a woman in bed. You can watch instructional video and learn what to do if you're interested in knowing. Everybody has to start somewhere. Unless you are looking for a woman who is a virgin and doesn't know what to do same as you. If that's the case you may want to make sure you visit dating sites that cater to your needs. While there are some women who are ok with being with an inexperienced guy in bed, there are others who prefer their guy to know how to please them or at least know the basics.


Best of luck to you and dont' give up just think about what things you can do to better your chances of having a successful relationship with the "right woman for you.
 
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As with the two previous responses ... err two later responses (since the time zones are screwed up), I concur ... this is not why she broke up with you ... it's just an easy excuse.
 
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Sarah,272034 wrote :

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I had a bad feeling this was going to happen, but it happened. She is breaking up with me. The reason? I am a 30 year old virgin who is unfamiliar with what to do with a woman in bed. This is killing me to no end...not just the breakup but the fact that if this is how women are, I might as well never even try again. It's heartbreaking to so many degrees, and shows that I will never have luck with relationships ever. I curse my Asperger's Syndrome and everything about it. ;-(


Just because you are 30 years old and you are a virgin doesn't mean you don't have to be unfamiliar with what to do with a woman in bed. You can watch instructional video and learn what to do if you're interested in knowing. Everybody has to start somewhere. Unless you are looking for a woman who is a virgin and doesn't know what to do same as you. If that's the case you may want to make sure you visit dating sites that cater to your needs. While there are some women who are ok with being with an inexperienced guy in bed, there are others who prefer their guy to know how to please them or at least know the basics.


Best of luck to you and dont' give up just think about what things you can do to better your chances of having a successful relationship with the "right woman for you.
Sarah is right Mark. There are plenty of ways to find out where everything goes and why it goes there. Having that basic knowledge will help your confidence, if nothing else.


My question is, if you saw the impending doom, why trumpet out the fact that you're a virgin in the first place ? Honesty is important, but a little white lie here wouldn't hurt anyone.


Keep your head up Mark.
 
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If your old girlfriend is breaking up with you because you are a virgin, the loss is on her end not yours!! I'm proud of you that you want to save yourself for the woman that you decide to marry one day. There are so many better ways of having a good time in a relationship that doesn't include that three letter word "sex". Keep looking, don't give up at this first choice. BE STRONG and BELIEVE In Yourself! "You will find Miss Right!" (Remember, "Patience is the Key Of The Beholder." Please have faith, in the Good Man Above! He works beautiful miracles!!
 
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