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If have a reputation as a bit of a heartbreaker, you're probably ending relationships for the wrong reasons. After all, not every bad day has to spell the end and not every problem is insurmountable. Wondering if you're throwing in the towel too soon? Check out 8 bad reasons to break up.
- September 19th, 2008, 05:54 am
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eharmonyadvice, wrote :

If have a reputation as a bit of a heartbreaker, you're probably ending relationships for the wrong reasons. After all, not every bad day has to spell the end and not every problem is insurmountable. Wondering if you're throwing in the towel too soon? Check out 8 bad reasons to break up.
Any of these reasons that go too far could break up a relationship. Chronic fighting without resolution, infidelity, trying to control your mate, projecting your baggage onto the other person instead of taking responsibility, picking on every liitle thing, etc. can lead in the opposite direction. I think the point for me would be yes, all these reasons are going to happen, it's just how you handle these situations together and as individuals that define the success of a long term relationship.


No one can predict how long a relationship will last under the strain of too much unexpected stress. All these reasons given are predictable . . . you pretty much know this is the way it works, but what really tests us is the unpredictable. Loss of a job, loss of health, loss of a way of life, adding children to the mix, having a parent move in, things that require major adjustments and shifts in the roles we are used to being in in a relationship can change in a hearbeat. It is a huge challenge to keep a relationship going in this day and age. This is where faith, trust, courage, tenacity and all those things that build our character come into play. How do we cowboy/cowgirl up (or not) to these challenges? No, really, I'm asking the question.


I think it would be good to get some feedback on people's experiences in relationships where working together brought you closer and what things alienated you from each other?
- September 19th, 2008, 09:39 am
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If your partner is making you more miserable when she (or he) is in your presence...and you've tried to figure out why...this might be a good reason for a break up?


Just be sure to ask yourself if you can really go it alone?


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- September 19th, 2008, 11:47 am
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argytunes wrote :

Just be sure to ask yourself if you can really go it alone?


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Apparently so, I'm still here.
- September 19th, 2008, 08:47 pm
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Songryder wrote :

eharmonyadvice, wrote :


If have a reputation as a bit of a heartbreaker, you're probably ending relationships for the wrong reasons. After all, not every bad day has to spell the end and not every problem is insurmountable. Wondering if you're throwing in the towel too soon? Check out 8 bad reasons to break up.


Any of these reasons that go too far could break up a relationship. Chronic fighting without resolution, infidelity, trying to control your mate, projecting your baggage onto the other person instead of taking responsibility, picking on every liitle thing, etc. can lead in the opposite direction. I think the point for me would be yes, all these reasons are going to happen, it's just how you handle these situations together and as individuals that define the success of a long term relationship.


No one can predict how long a relationship will last under the strain of too much unexpected stress. All these reasons given are predictable . . . you pretty much know this is the way it works, but what really tests us is the unpredictable. Loss of a job, loss of health, loss of a way of life, adding children to the mix, having a parent move in, things that require major adjustments and shifts in the roles we are used to being in in a relationship can change in a hearbeat. It is a huge challenge to keep a relationship going in this day and age. This is where faith, trust, courage, tenacity and all those things that build our character come into play. How do we cowboy/cowgirl up (or not) to these challenges? No, really, I'm asking the question.


I think it would be good to get some feedback on people's experiences in relationships where working together brought you closer and what things alienated you from each other?
Perhaps you should have written an article and Eharmony should haveposted yours. I found what you wrote to have way more value and insight, thanyet anotherlame articleposted by eharmony.
- September 19th, 2008, 11:34 pm
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8 Bad Reasons to Break Up: If you are already married to each other, these are bad reasons (lame excuses) to break up. Why? Because it wasn't so bad that it kept you from getting married, so why does it bug you now? The answer is about you.


If you are dating, consider it part of the screening process; if it really bugs you, break up. Why? Because it will be magnified after you get married. It is about the person you are dating. You are supposed to screen out people you can't get along with while you are dating so you don't end up getting a divorce.
- September 20th, 2008, 10:21 pm
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Oh my..blah blah blah blah...where's Dr. Phil, Dr.. Oprah, Dr. Laura and Dr. ?


Who writes this stuff...no better yet...who actually PAYS someone to write this stuff? Wow! When history looks back on this culture, they'll show in specifics the causes...on ewill be writing like this.
- September 21st, 2008, 01:15 am
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i agree with sarah...


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If you identify with this stuff try codependents anonymous (CoDA) meetings - great 12 step program (based on AA)


www.codependentsanonymous.org.au


Cheers


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- September 23rd, 2008, 08:49 pm
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People can fall in love but they can allso fall out off love for many diffrent reasons
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