You should break up because you want to break up. For the love of God, you dont OWE anybody to stay together. This is different if you're married but while dating, its probation: you can let go of anyone for any reason or no reason. Thats what dating is FOR, experimenting with what you like and dont like. keep what you like, dump what you dont. I really dont like these articles telling me what I should and should not like. The only reason to be in a relationship is if you like the other person, you enjoy most things about them, and you get along well. If this is not true, why settle? Lots of fish in the sea. personally I would prefer to be alone and peaceful rather than "trying" to make it work with somebody who annoys the daylights out of me. Lets not forget the point of this relationship thing.. you're not supposed to force yourself to love. You love or you dont.

This was obviously written by someone who didn't want their partner to break up with them. And all of these "reasons" were probably excuses brought up by the dumper to the dumpee to make them feel better or to justify having not other reason than just being done with the relationship. In the end, it doesn't matter if the reason is petty or not, or if there are outside reasoning. If someone wants to make a big deal of small things or make excuses to no longer be in a realtionship then guess what....it is probably a bad relationship. Or maybe it just isn't right for that one person! Very few relationships end with both sides agreeing that it should end....that is life people! Move on and find someone else!

I love this article. It says so much. Sometimes we as humans expect too much from our partner that we walk away from him or her at the first sign of trouble or differences. It is so sad when a person can not compromise for the sake of love. I tend to look at the overall good in a person rather than dwell on his faults.No one is perfect, and down the road, if a person seems perfect now, doesn't mean he or she will be perfect later. The same goes with imperfection. What is imperfect now, may not be imperfect down the road.

You shouldn't break up unless (not abruptly anyway) with out honest reasons. If you're not dating the wrong person, the person isphyscially abusive or something worse, there's no reason to end it

I love reading your articles...they are so usefule and relative to everyday life. A couple of your article related to my life's experience. I hope you don't mind that I am sharing and venting my recent experience where I almost left this wonderful world because a very unfair treatment.


I have been in a 10 year relationship - a very wonderful loving relationship until my partner told me on the telephone things are not working. During our 10 years relationship, almost everyday, we will be calling each other several times a day and say "i love you" or checking at each other; and would seeeach other....share our sincere and wonderful love to each other. We love both our families and friends and everyone and everything we gained during these years. There was no specific reason why I got the breakup call, no significant nor specific reason. I have called and called and seeked for an explanation, but all I received was silence, no response. This is worst thing that ever happened to my life and I MAKE it sure the last and will NEVER allow this happen to me again. After the "dumping day" during those days, weeks, and months, there was not a day that I shed tears, lots of sleepless nights, was very angry, mad, confused, lonely and sick. I was not sure whether I was going to die at any day....I could not function properly. All of me, my system, mentally and physically went dead. Until today, I have not gotten any reason why I became a dumpee. I do not understand....we had so much love for each other, so much wonderful and solid relationship and just one day...I got the pink slip. Until now, I can not understand why this happened....but I am still hoping and wishing that God will give us another chance to check things out and giving us the opportunity toevaluate ourselves and check where and what went wrong; orperhaps this isa trial how strong we can take this. My prayers are the only things I cling on these days.....I have gone to having such great appetite to eat nothing, I have gone from a happy person to melancholy....I have gone from positive thinker to negative....all of me went sour....that I am believing life, my life, or I have been given an unfair life with no apparent reason...I did nothing wrong...and I do not deserved to be dumped in this way. I am coming to say thatthe dumper is a total jerk and will be a jerk lifetime..... a total looser, will never find happiness in lifeand is being flushed with the rest of the SH#@*&T in the toilet, that's where the dumper belongs--not to be rescued not even the rooter-rooter will be able to help.


Considering both parties are professional, decent and loving people....this relationship do not deserved to be ended this way. I have tried to secure for explanation for gazillion times, but no response, no decent explanation...just a major total f#%*&ng jerk.


Thank you for allowing write the above comments.