cr7 is offline cr7 Post #1  September 11,2008, 7:07pm
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ok well there is this girl at my work who works down stairs from me and well i used to talk to her all the time and say hello until one day i asked her for her phone number and she told me she had a boyfriend, so after she told me that we kind of lost touch until four months later she comes into my office to do inventory and well we basically hit it off she was a completely different person then when i used to talk to her before and she seems somewhat interested. Well my question is do i try and ask her if she is still with her bf without coming off to strong, do i try and ask her for her number again and risk getting shot down or should i just straight up ask her out for coffee or something along those lines and see what happens?
 
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Just ask her if she still has a bf. If she says "yes", then reply with something like..."well, he's a lucky guy"! If she says "no", then say..."so wouldn you like to meet for coffee or lunch sometime"? I bet she'll say "yes"! Good-luck! : )
 
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cr7, wrote :

ok well there is this girl at my work who works down stairs from me and well i used to talk to her all the time and say hello until one day i asked her for her phone number and she told me she had a boyfriend, so after she told me that we kind of lost touch until four months later she comes into my office to do inventory and well we basically hit it off she was a completely different person then when i used to talk to her before and she seems somewhat interested. Well my question is do i try and ask her if she is still with her bf without coming off to strong, do i try and ask her for her number again and risk getting shot down or should i just straight up ask her out for coffee or something along those lines and see what happens?
Ask her out for coffee and, during the conversation, she'll either mention that she has (or does not have) a boyfriend.....lots of "my friends and I went to x, y, z, this weekend," "my friend and I are going x, y, z next weekend" etc are signals that perhaps she's not in a relationship.


If she's a good girl (definition: worth your time) and wants to avoid any misunderstanding, then she'll definitely bring up her boyfriend. Asking me upfront whetherI have a boyfriend would turn me off because you'd be coming off a little strong....take the time to find out if she's in a relationship......just *my* 2 cents[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img].





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Screw coffee, ask her if she wants to take you out.


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cr7, wrote :

ok well there is this girl at my work who works down stairs from me and well i used to talk to her all the time and say hello until one day i asked her for her phone number and she told me she had a boyfriend, so after she told me that we kind of lost touch until four months later she comes into my office to do inventory and well we basically hit it off she was a completely different person then when i used to talk to her before and she seems somewhat interested. Well my question is do i try and ask her if she is still with her bf without coming off to strong, do i try and ask her for her number again and risk getting shot down or should i just straight up ask her out for coffee or something along those lines and see what happens?
It's a perfectly legitimate question: "Are you still with your boyfriend?" It's a yes or no answer. If it's no, fine. Wait a couple of days and then ask her out for some coffee or something. Couldn't hurt.
 
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I have a strict rule against dating anyone I work with.


Consider what may happen if you do get a date with her and it does not work out.
 
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Dear CR7,


Since the last thing she told you, even though it was four months ago, was that she had a boyfriend, it might seem that you're crossing boundaries if you just ask her out without ascertaining about the boyfriend.


Maybe you could say something like this, "You probably remember I asked you for your phone number about four months ago and you told me you had a boyfriend at that time. I wasn't certain if things had changed in your life and, of course, I have too much respect for you to ask you out if you still have a boyfriend. On the other hand, if you and he are no longer dating, I'd like the pleasure of your company on a date next Saturday."


This way, you're showing respect for what she told you several months ago, you're not ignoring it, you're seeking to see if that information is still valid, and, if not, you'd like to ask her out. You're covering it all when you do it in this fashion. It's a win-win.


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Perhaps youcould ask if her and her boyfriend would like to go along with a group for coffee or drinks. If the boyfriend is no longer in the picture she will let you know. But be prepared for a "We'd love too" answer. Good Luck! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-kiss.gif[/img]
 
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I'm with Pirate. "You should take me out sometime" works well.





Cue the hens...
 
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lacedwithhope is offline lacedwithhope Post #10  September 11,2008, 9:45pm
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How about a simple, "Hey how's your boyfriend doing?" mixed in with casual conversation about other things...?
 
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