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I really appreciate your take here Dig... food for though....
- September 9th, 2008, 10:25 pm
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I have to agree with Digital here, there are some really sharp, intelligentwomen who don't have degrees, and some real duds that do. I agree that a person's interest or desire to know more about anything can be as important as actually having a degree in it. Who would you rather date, somebody who acts as though they know it all, or someone who laughs at the not knowing and explores the answer with you.
- September 9th, 2008, 10:40 pm
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Kestral wrote :

Who would you rather date, somebody who acts as though they know it all, or someone who laughs at the not knowing and explores the answer with you.
Great comment, Kestral! How nicely you articulated the importance of finding a match who is like-minded...
- September 9th, 2008, 10:56 pm
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It is not the degree, it is the smarts.
- September 9th, 2008, 10:59 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :

It is not the degree, it is the smarts.
I've dated some INCREDIBLY smart women who've had no interest in the things I did. Politics, History, geekery, whatever.


It didn't work out.


It's about how you relate to eachother.
- September 9th, 2008, 11:01 pm
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Digital wrote :

Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :


It is not the degree, it is the smarts.


I've dated some INCREDIBLY smart women who've had no interest in the things I did. Politics, History, geekery, whatever.


It didn't work out.


It's about how you relate to eachother.
Can I quote you on that?
- September 9th, 2008, 11:03 pm
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Can I quote you on that?
You can.... but I have the feeling it's going to bite me in the a$$. Can I know where I'm wrong first?
- September 9th, 2008, 11:05 pm
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angelpoet, wrote :


How much does a formal education matter to you when selecting a mate?

Does this differ or is it influenced by gender?

Does this truly make a difference in compatibility?

How does it affectyour choices in eH matches?

Does it mean more today in this technological age?

Are you more impressed by an Ivy League Degree?

Does this affect your perception of intelligence?

Does it depend on your upbringing and occupation?

Does it make a relationship difficult for the more or less educated partner?

Does Self Educated and/or the "School of Hard Knocks" or "School of Life" mean thesame to you as a university degree in the whole scheme of things?

I feel that education should not be a critical factor in selecting a mate. I'd like to share my reason why. A few people I know never finished school. Two of them neverfinished gettingtheir Bachelors degree because they decided that getting married and having a family was more important. One of them was able to find his niche in a company and was very successful in paying the mortage on their house, support and feed the family, pay the bills, and still have enough money to put into his retirement account.The other person never finished high school, but he is able to make enough money to pay the bills, feed his family, and pay the mortage on his house. These three are an inspiration to me. Education has never been a factor for me in finding the right woman to marry, but it hurts me when so many women turn me away because I don't have a Bachelors degree. As long as a person makes a sustainable income and knows how to deal with issues in a positive way, does it really matter? There are other ways to measure intelligence besides how much education a person has. What about how much knowledge a person knows about gardening or computers? What about how a person plays an active leadership role in a community or state organization? These are the kind of things to look for - not by how advanced the person's degree is.
- September 9th, 2008, 11:17 pm
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Education is closely correlated with economic and socio-cultural outlooks. It is not about intelligence per se. It is about compatibility in outlook (especially when it comes to kids' upbringing) and comfort level with the spouse's social circle. So yes, education is indeed important.
- September 10th, 2008, 11:47 am
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Education is closely correlated with economic and socio-cultural outlooks. It is not about intelligence per se. It is about compatibility in outlook (especially when it comes to kids' upbringing) and comfort level with the spouse's social circle. So yes, education is indeed important.
thank you one and all! very interesting and really made me think!
- September 10th, 2008, 05:14 pm
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