How to handle a common first-date problem - she's much heavier in person


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DanielJr82 is offline DanielJr82 Post #381  August 16,2009, 7:54am
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Bouffy wrote :
*drool* More like above average! Who wants regular anyways?

Where can I find a yummy muffin like that? I don't see the problem here, are you skinny or something? I'm 6'3; 240; This size of girl is great! Curvy and Delicious. As long as she's active and not out of shape. I love big girls.

You hear me world?!

Big girls, you are beautiful.
Fat bottom girls you make my rocking world go 'round!
Eat all the fries you want baby! We can work 'em out later ;p
Haha... now that's what I'm talking about.
 
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cp30 wrote :
just to let you guys know....robert left the building about a year ago this thread keeps coming back to haunt me. I think of it as the original "overweight woman thread"

and yeah, marylion monroe IS considered overweight compared to models of today. I don't consider her overweight, but she would be kicked off the runway that is for sure...she might have a future in adult films, if she agreed to plastic enhancements and other surgeries or alterations.
She was a pinup model, not a catwalk model, if she were just starting out today she'd have probably been guided towards glamour modelling, The Sun would snap her up for page three.
 
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I think she is gorgeous....but she does not have any muscle definition...no abs! rarely see that today on any type of model, maybe in england?
 
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robert2008 wrote :
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Now in the second case, the woman was pretty interesting and attractive in person, but clearly weighed about 200 lbs. (5'6"), although on her profile she described her body type as 'average'. Regardless of anything else, 5'6" and 200 lbs is not "average". I'd like to see her again, but won't really be truly interested unless she loses weight ... I wonder if there's any way to communicate this ...

I realize this post raises lots of issues... My take-away is to only meet women in person who have a full body picture online. I don't think these women intended to deceive - I think they're probably being somewhat dishonest with themselves.
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Yes, something is wrong. If so many women are doing this there is some denial here, or worse, just wanting to fib to get a chance. I agree with you in the denial part.

I don't understand why anyone would want to do this. You only incur anger on your dates part for having "fibbed" for him/her. It puts them in a difficult position and they can get easily irritated.
 
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Wow, sad for you, how many wonderful women have you missed out on because they are heavier than average. It's tempting to post a picture that makes one look over weight just so they can meet a man that cares about "who" you are. I'm 5'5" and weigh 120. LOL I've been told NUMEROUS times that I am too thin.
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marmer wrote :
Wow, sad for you, how many wonderful women have you missed out on because they are heavier than average. It's tempting to post a picture that makes one look over weight just so they can meet a man that cares about "who" you are. I'm 5'5" and weigh 120. LOL I've been told NUMEROUS times that I am too thin.
Yeah, weight isn't my deciding factors. Looks do make a big difference though I think it is hard to make a determination based solely on photos so if the chemistry is there I will go on the date and decide for myself.
 
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Yeah, weight isn't my deciding factors. Looks do make a big difference though I think it is hard to make a determination based solely on photos so if the chemistry is there I will go on the date and decide for myself.
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robert2008 wrote :
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I've just had this problem twice in two weeks - one with a woman I met from eHarmony. When we actually meet up in person, it's clear that her pictures didn't really truthfully show what kind of (fairly poor) physical shape she was in.

In the first case, I realized belatedly that she hadn't had a 'full body' picture up. And in person, I just felt no attraction. Afterwards I handled it by sending email saying that I didn't feel the 'chemistry'.

Now in the second case, the woman was pretty interesting and attractive in person, but clearly weighed about 200 lbs. (5'6"), although on her profile she described her body type as 'average'. Regardless of anything else, 5'6" and 200 lbs is not "average". I'd like to see her again, but won't really be truly interested unless she loses weight ... I wonder if there's any way to communicate this ...

I realize this post raises lots of issues... My take-away is to only meet women in person who have a full body picture online. I don't think these women intended to deceive - I think they're probably being somewhat dishonest with themselves.
So what's good for the goose, should be good for the gander? Why is your pic pixeled out? where is your head to toe shot?
You state "I'd like to see her again, but won't really be truly interested unless she loses weight".
If you would like to see her again, then to me that means you are interested! Beauty is only skin deep and think of it, as more to love!
 
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Oh, I've known not a few voluptuous women (eyes glaces over with far oft memories). But pixualted man, what every gets your rocks off. There are enough greyhounds about. And I sppose one might always loose weight. Don't know what you can do if your're dog face ugly, though.
 
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There are exceptions to the "head and shoulder" only rule.

MANY women who post a head and shoulder shot, or face only shot are hiding something.

1. They are fat, deformed or in some way physically undesirable.

2. They could be SUPER HOT and if they posted a full body shot, guys would only be interested in them for physical appearance alone.

I have experienced both.

ALSO:

If a woman, or man looks good now, that does not mean they will continue to stay that way. Some women, and mostly men work out hard and hit the gym on a regular basis to have a better physical appearance. But when they get into a serious relationship, they loose their motivation to stay thin, and can quickly transform to a hideous physical state.

Seek out the genetics. Look at the mother and father, aunts, sisters brothers and anyone else they are directly related to. If they are all enormously obese, well you know what you are getting into.
 
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