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I have a 2nd date planned at anice restaurant. A while back I got a $50 gift certificate to this restaurant. Is it OK for me to use it on a second date? Dinner for two runs about $150 to $200 andI have no problem paying. I don't want her thinking I'm cheap.


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- August 12th, 2008, 09:50 am
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michaell1999, wrote :

I have a 2nd date planned at anice restaurant. A while back I got a $50 gift certificate to this restaurant. Is it OK for me to use it on a second date? Dinner for two runs about $150 to $200 andI have no problem paying. I don't want her thinking I'm cheap.


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Maybe if you place it under your credit card or under your cash when they come by to pick up the checkshe wont even notice. I personally wouldn't see that as cheap. You still spent $150 to $100 on the girl. I would just use the gift card.
- August 12th, 2008, 09:54 am
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I'd wait. Don't spend that kind of money on a second date.
- August 12th, 2008, 09:55 am
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I agree with 2ndsojourn.$200 for dinner on a 2nd date is a little much. As a woman I do enjoy being wined and dined, but to spend that kind of money before you really know someone andif this is going to go anywhere might be getting ahead of yourself. Use the gift certificate down the road if you are still seeing this girl.
- August 12th, 2008, 09:59 am
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I have been given gift certificates in the past, and they at best end up covering only about 40%of the tab. I wouldn't think ill of someone who used one, especially in a place that runs that high. Just slip it in along with the credit card if you're worried about the impression. Besides, you want someone who has the same attitude toward money anyway, don't you? Plus, there is a difference between being cheap, and being frugal. It was a gift after all; it would be rude not to use it. I myself can be very tight with money on some things. Not that I don't buy or pay for expensive things, just not overpriced. I will gladly spend a hundred or two on a gift for a person or on a quality piece of clothing. But at the same time, it just kills me to pay forty bucks for just a movie and a snack. That being said, what really matters is that you have compatible attitudes toward money; it's crucial to a long term relationship.
- August 12th, 2008, 10:00 am
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In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with saving some money. As long as you do it tastefully, I don't see a problem. That is assuming your date isn't all about the "material" aspects of a relationship. Each person is different.
- August 12th, 2008, 10:09 am
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That's just too much to spend on a second date. How will you feel if you never hear from her again? If that wouldn't bother you - as far as the $$ output goes - then go for it. From a woman's perspective though, I would be uncomfortable letting a guy spend that kind of money if I didn't REALLY like him.
- August 12th, 2008, 10:16 am
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I would be uncomfortable having a guy spend that much money even if I did like him so early in the relationship. You have to find the woman that shares tastes like you do. If that is a normal date for you then do it, since for most people that would be extravagant....save something like for a truly special evening.
- August 12th, 2008, 10:25 am
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Yeah, don't brag about how you're using a gift card, and you'll be fine. Money-wise, it all depends on how much you like this girl and how much this girl likes you. Gauge that before spending a lot on her, because no matter what, you can't use money to make her like you.
- August 12th, 2008, 10:27 am
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Nice gesture to go to such a nice place on your second date...but don't do it. Find a place half as expensive and use the gift card later. Such a big expenditure so early might...might...make the lady feel that something is "expected" of her. If she likes you, there will be more chances to wine and dine her later.
- August 12th, 2008, 10:43 am
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