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kyjohng is offline kyjohng Post #1  August 11,2008, 4:54pm
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I am sure this topic has been covered in different threads .... there are a number of ladies I have in the "Communicating" stage, somewhere between sending the 1st qeustions and OC. Like many folks on EH, they seemed to have gone 'poof'. (No doubt, this applied to the ladies as well where men just 'vanish')


By that, I mean we are somewhere in the GC path, I have sent my questions/replys and - nothing - for weeks.


So, out of curiosity, how long do you all wait before closing someone out who has not responded for a while? I am not a fan of the "Nudge" message. If they haven't respnded, why bother?


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kyjohng, wrote :

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I am sure this topic has been covered in different threads .... there are a number of ladies I have in the "Communicating" stage, somewhere between sending the 1st qeustions and OC. Like many folks on EH, they seemed to have gone 'poof'. (No doubt, this applied to the ladies as well where men just 'vanish')


By that, I mean we are somewhere in the GC path, I have sent my questions/replys and - nothing - for weeks.


So, out of curiosity, how long do you all wait before closing someone out who has not responded for a while? I am not a fan of the "Nudge" message. If they haven't respnded, why bother?


Looking forward to your thoughts.
I give people 1 week. I know everyone's busy, but if he's interested in me I'd like to think he'd push me to the top of the list just like I do for guys I'm interested in. I think it also depends on how fast or slow you like things to move.
 
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I give two weeks. If nothing then closed due to no response.
 
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It all boils down to what you feel comfortable with. For myself, I don't wait near that long for a reply in GC. If the woman is interested, even a little, she'll find time to reply in 1 week, no nudge needed in my opinion.


For those that don't reply they either aren't actively using eharmony (so leaving it open is pointless), or she's preoccupied with some other matches (same result).


Compare this to being at a party and starting a conversation with some girl you're interested in. You get to talking and then right in the middle she says she has to go to the bathroom. You hang around and she doesn't come back. Later you see her talking with some other guy. She lost interest and didn't want to hurt your feelings so just move on. In this case, if the girl was interested she'd pull you towards the bathroom with her or tell you to hold on and she'll be back or something like that. That's similar to replying in GC after 5-7 days.
 
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When I was active in eH, one full (seven day) week.


If someone doesn't answer within that time, they're either a) not really interested or, b) too busy to have any sort of substantial relationship with me.


If (and this never happened to me, but has happened to others here) the person was involved in a genuine emergency (death in the family, hospitalization, etc.) or was actually on vacation, they always had the option of asking me to reconsider, which I probably would do.
 
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I give them about a week, unless I have information that suggests they may take longer to respond. Sometimes I don't get back for 3/4 days because I'm busy, so I can't really be too upset if someone takes a while to respond to me.
 
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I should also say that I never had a 'nudge' (when I used them) result in someone actually responding to me. Ever.
 
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I wait a week to 10 days during the summertime when people might be on vacation. I'll close them sooner if I wasn't really into them that much to begin with.
 
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kyjohng, wrote :

Hello All


I am sure this topic has been covered in different threads .... there are a number of ladies I have in the "Communicating" stage, somewhere between sending the 1st qeustions and OC. Like many folks on EH, they seemed to have gone 'poof'. (No doubt, this applied to the ladies as well where men just 'vanish')


By that, I mean we are somewhere in the GC path, I have sent my questions/replys and - nothing - for weeks.


So, out of curiosity, how long do you all wait before closing someone out who has not responded for a while? I am not a fan of the "Nudge" message. If they haven't respnded, why bother?


Looking forward to your thoughts.
I look at who view me, if the person I'm looking for a response from viewed me more than 3 days ago and has not responded,....their history. Otherwise, .....if no response or view for 7 days, their also history (CLOSED OUT). Sorry, I'm not cluttering my matche listwith non-responders. Steventhetraveler
 
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I give them a week to respond unless I am VERY interested then I will nudge. I have had 2 nudges respond, went on 3 dates recently with one of them, but no 4th date.
 
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