There's a fine line between self-assured and intimidating. Is it possible that you come off to others as unapproachable?
Sure. I'm a very direct sort of person. Some people can't really handle that. For the ones who can - it shakes up to some really great relationships and/or friendships.
I give you the dating boards as my exhibit A. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]
It's somewhat ridiculous to ask a person if they are unapproachable. If a person honestly believed they were unapproachable the would take measures to change their behavior (if they're looking for a partner). If they say they are not unapproachable, they could very well be, and just be oblivious to the fact, and assume the people who aren't approaching them are just insecure. And for those who do think they are unapproachable, they may just be stereotypically unattractive, and have a hard time meeting people because of fashion sense, or odor... This is a dumb question.
I try not to be intimidating, but I know I do come across as that. I'm really shy, so it's hard to make eye conctact with anyone...it's hard to throw out a smile...use that body language. I always joke with friends that I'm going to make a nametage or badge that say: I'm not a b!tch, just shy!
yes and no, i can be quiet, but sometimes being straighforward and no filter, especially when im talking, some people can too soon classify me as a beotch.when im really just being honest.
I'm probably too intimidating to the men I wouldn't be attracted to anyway. I suppose that's natural seection at work. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]
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