i was dumped last nov 2006. mr right was waiting in the wings calling and checking on me in dec2006. in april of this year i got engaged to awonderful man i met when we worked togther for the same cab company.4 years ago we met now we will be married on july 21 in reno nv

Get this.....by e-mail the coward writes: I feel I must move on in life and perhaps find someone closer to where I live (we were 60 miles apart). What seems impossible to me is that I have never felt so loved, cared for or affectionate than you in my life. i realize that what I'm giving up I may not get again but I still need to move on....blah, blah blah. Personally, I feel he is still in love with his ex-wife who walked out on him and their kids 7 years ago, One sap making a sap out of another(that would be me)! Our relationship started online last August and I got the breaking news three weeks ago. What's wrong with me? Who does he think he is? All the questions that go through your head. These things your right about, I'll probably never get closure on. Sure I'm lonely, but done crying....now I'm in the mad, "screw him mode." I did e-mail him about 10 days ago to see if he wanted to hang out for his birthday (we supposedly departed as friends) but what do you know? No response. So I'm controlling myself, did not call him today or send him a card for his birthday. I guess things do happen for a reason, I'm still learning at 44 and this too shall pass.

I was married for 16 years, he walked out in november 2006, when i caught up with him 4days later he said that it was time to move on and that he loved me but that he felt like it would be better for both ect ect. He said we would waite a few weeks and go out and see if we could get back together.... WHATEVER... In a few months he hit me with divorce papers and we were divorced in 2 months he took everything because i was hit blind sided. My life has taked many turns sence then including a crippling car accident and life has been difficult his family still call and talk with me and love me. So all of the suddent he is calling me for stupid stuff , like yeasterday he wanted to know what kind of cold meds to buy and then later he called from the houseboat(which i loved living on and the people there are friends) to ask how long chicken on the grill takes to cook, with everyone talking and laughing having fun without me in the back ground. I told him what to do and hung up quickly. Whats his deal is he still trying to hurt me or is he just being a guy? Well life will never be the same i am making it an hope someone out there canread this and find hope.

It's all there in black and white. I should have seen it coming. After 3 and a half years, and out of nowhere, came the announcement that he's breaking up to save me from the "drama" of all the situations occurring with ex-wife and kids.
He just totally ignored me, not returning calls, emails, etc. Then out of nowhere, he calls me and proceeds to unload on me all his trials and tribulations for the last month. He said that I was always willing to listen and that we left the relationship on a friendly note. He felt guilty for the way it ended. This breakup seriously broke my heart. I knew he didn't feel the same about me as I did him. I foolishly fell back in to a routine and we reconciled. It was never the same after that. The chemistry was there but each time he had a challenge in his life, I was an after thought. Constantly breaking plans because of last minute changes in visititation and problems with his kids. Whenever he was with his kids, whether a weekend or a week, never a call. I finally broke it off, angry that I was no longer treated with consideration or respect. I asked for my house key back. It wasn't returned as swiftly as the first break up and I was getting constant "put offs"or excuses. When it was finally returned, by an unexpected drop off, a bottle of wine and a card. He was sorry, etc. I should have known all these years, from the impersonal gifts and tokens, the compatibility wasn't there. Now I'm better off and it's time to move on. We were together a total of 5 years and I now know what I suspected all along, I was in denial. I was "a comfortable convenience" and I let myself be just that.
I'm handling it very well because it was on my terms and I found the courage by reading this.

the Slow Burn out of all of these must be the worst, funny thing is I have never ended a relationship before, I guess that is the Pisces in me. For now I will enjoy my new found freedom!

This article said it all. She was already gone, just too chicken (even after her 3 divorces and being 55!) to tell me. First a few months ago, it was the cynical speech about how "everyone is always lining up or thinking about who they want to be with next". Then it was the regular phone calls from a male co-worker that she hid from me. Then it was the lists of all the "warning signs"she said she finally saw in me, and that the last year and a half she had really been in "lust" even though she called it love. Then the secret love notes from yet another old flame that she didn't tell me about. Then telling me we could "only be friends" but she still wanted to see me. Like a fool, I hung on because I wanted so badly for it to be finally the real thing, and I let another woman break my heart.

well i just was dumped after being together just one month shy of three years . we were in an LDR and had met online through a mutual friend who set ME up. she had asked my friend to ask if she could have my im addy after seeing me in a chat room, i agreed, we talked, and it went from there. only thing was were were both married at the time, i was starting a divorce as my marriage was over before i ever met her ( i am best friends with my now ex wife btw ), she however was still very married but very unhappy, i was a friend to her, to cry on my shoulder, untill it grew from there and we fell in love. we spent every wakeing day together eith on the phone several times aday, or online every moring before work, and every night after work, she "chose " me over her hubby, kicked him out last july and said she wanted me, couldnt imgine her life without me, i bought it, believed in her, and "us" we were looking at houses together in fact and she had talked about moving here. that all changed about a month after that, and she had decided she just couldnt leave her house. before she had always told me she didnt want anything out of her hubby except the kids, that he could have the house. that all changed, then i was willing to move to her, my buisness had taken a turn , and it was Now a possibility for Me to relocate. i told her of this in february of this year, only for her to tell me she wasnt ready for me to move in with her ( eventhough when i visited her for a month at her house in september of last year, she didnt want me to leave then, and had told me " why dont you just move up here, help me run my buisness and take care of this " big ol place ?" anyway, it all went down hill from february . i kept being there for her, i told her i would "wait" for her, everytime she said she wanted, needed me in her life and couldnt imagine her life without me. she got more and more distant over the last several months and everytime i begged her to talk to me about it, or let me go, i got her temper tantrums about how she " couldnt handle this right now" to the " i cant live without you, please be at my side and support me " rutine . to make a long story short, she blew up at me in an offline message one day, because i "was mad" , because Thats how she percieved a siimple message i had left her, which read " well looks like its gonna be another one of those days when we dont get to see each other,, ttyl *HUgzz* , after telling her later in chat that i WAsnt mad, and hearing her dissagree with me and tell me "yes you were.. i have known you for three years and i know when you are mad ". i just lost it, that was the final straw, i told her how i had been feeling for a very long time , like they say, the truth hurts, and i pointed out some personality flaws of hers. she got mad, said i hurt her, and was mean to her. .. the next day, we talked, she told me how hard it was for her to not "ping " me, and we were talking, there was some positive dialogue, i thought she was over her tantrum, when all of a sudden she rips into me again, about how i hurt her ( never mind that she has been slowing hurting me for the past month on a daily basis, but didnt want to hear it ) . anyway, its over now, and she has blocked and deleted me from her life . when we were together, it was so perfect for so long. i loved her with all of me i had to give, did any and everything for her, and waited for Her, to get her life straightend out for three years while she kept me on the string .

I met the man whom I believed was my "soulmate" online on Thanksgiving night, 2006. My life had been in shambles for months prior to that night...on Thanksgiving Day, my life changed. I had previously been estranged from my family until we were reunited that day. I went online that night (1st time in months) and 'he" sent an instant message to me. We had a lengthy chat that night...I knew he was special from that 1st communication.

One week later, during our 2nd chat, we discovered that his roommate had been chatting online with one of my ex-boyfriends! I quickly warned them about him and, due to that conversation, I became friends with his roommate, as well.

He and I talked over the phone for 3 hrs/night for the next 2 1/2 mths. We decided to meet in person for our 1st date on 2/3/07. We had a lovely time--spent 12 hrs together that day/night. I was not physically attracted to him upon our 1st meeting, but I had previously promised to spend his birthday with him (4 days later). During the course of our 2nd date, I became enchanted by him and, shortly thereafter, we became an exclusive couple.

I felt that I had never been so compatible with or had so much in common with anyone in my entire life! We fell in love rather quickly (he admitted his feelings for me before mine for him actually developed). We continued to share a blissful and love-filled relationship for weeks (at that point) thereafter.

I thought things were perfect until one day after we had been seeing each other for a few weeks. He sent a mysterious instant (offline) msg to me...telling me he (due to his own issues) wasn't sure he should be in a relationship. This SHOCKED and horrified me...I went to visit him unexpectedly that day because I wanted to talk to him face-to-face. He admitted that his son had recently been diagnosed with retardation and he wasn't sure if he should have any more children. He claimed he was trying to give me the option of finding someone else in case I desired to procreate one day. I informed him that I never really had a desire to become a parent and, after a lengthy discussion, things were fine.

Our blissful and love-filled relationship proceeded nicely for a couple of months. One night, he was supposed to call me (his nightly routine) and neglected to, so I called him. His demeanor over the phone was uncharacteristic...cold and mean-spirited. He informed me that he didn't think our relationship was going to work. Once again, I was shocked and hurt...had no idea that anything was wrong! I kept reassuring him that I loved him (oddly enough, he returned the sentiment)! We decided to meet the following night to spend time together, although we had virtually broken up.

We met the next night and he stuck to his belief that our relationship probably needed to end. This hurt me deeply (to say the least)! I followed him to his place in my vehicle and cried en route. I kept thinking it may be the last time I ever see him...that thought was unbearable to me. He admitted to me that he found it impossible to focus at work that day because he kept thinking about the demise of our relationship. After I sobbed in his living room, he changed his mind and told me that he felt he was "nuts" and was wrong about our relationship. He proceeded to be as loving and caring as he had normally been.

This brings us to the present time....he very recently disclosed to me that he felt that his love for me was becoming deeper. He talked about being w me forever & his desire to marry me. I was elated since I loved him dearly and wanted to spend my life with him!
I attended my cousin's wedding yesterday (solo since he had to work...his request for a vacation day was denied). We had planned to spend last night together at his place and the next day (today), I was supposed to meet his parents and brother for the 1st time. I had been chatting online w his brother for a few weeks & had developed a friendship w him. I was excited about the prospect of meeting all of them.,.was told they were equaly as excited at the prospect of meeting me!

When I arrived home from my cousin's wedding, I discovered a voice mail msg from my boyfriend. His tone was odd (in my opinion). He proceeded to inform me that he received an e-mail from his cell phone provider...someone had allegedly attempted to access his cell acct online & failed to do so due to an incorrect password. He accused me of this transgression....and told me he felt our relationship should end. I was immediately upset...I never attempted to access his cell acct. I had bags packed in anticipation of staying @ his place that night. so I took the bags, left and headed over to his place resolve this matter.

Once i arrived at his place, I discovered that he was not home...he arrived home a few minutes after I arrived. I immediately told him that he falsely accused me of the transgression & asked him if I could come inside with him. We hung out at his place for a few hrs...I promised that I had never deceived him and never would...and that I loved him. He told me he loved me, also, but no longer trusted me (even though I knew I was innocent). He did not want me to stay @ his place w him overnight....and decided not to introduce me to his family today. He did, however, agree to spend time together this evening once his family departs.

I feel numb today..exhausted, but unable to rest. I am hoping that we can resolve matters, but that may not happen. I started to see the posibility that he has some mental issues that need to be addressed (due to his history of being close to me and then pulling away emotionally a couple of times). He seems to be confused and uncertain...hope things go well for us, but only time will tell!

My husband and I have been married for seven years and since he got his business up and running his whole attitude has changed. He never has anything to say nor does he wear his wedding ring anymore. His phone has all kinds of numbers in it, that's not friends or family. I've notice our conversation is very short and it's been like this before when he was cheating on me. I love him, but i;m not in love with him. I'm ready for the marriage to end because both of us are not happy, but how? When I try to talk about our marriage he says he don't care and do what I want. I hung on this long because of the children, but I have to make myself happy and the happiness will follow along with my kids. I'm about to start school and start a career for myself. That's part of the problem because he's so jealous. It hurts when I think about it, but life goes on and I can't do it with him anymore.