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Alisanar wrote :

If you hitched your star toa career field in any area where the words "arrest" "conviction" "drugs" "jail" "bail" "felony" or even "misdemeanor" would forever bar you...or at the very least cause irreperable harm to your reputation, DO NOT date, live with, marry, or continue to see/be around a partner who smokes marijuana. You run the risk of living up to their reputation whether you participate or not. You know about it, you are there, you may very well take the fall.


The debate over whether it should be legal or not, etc., makes no difference. Where do you want to end up? Moreover, that your partner does not care whether you risk everything or not, pretty much says that you are not first in your partner's priorities.


If you "put your foot down" and tell them they will notsmoke marijuanaor you will leave, get your bags packed because it won't be long....probably a day or two...before you hear the lies, find the evidence, or just get it tossed in your face. If you are lucky you will leave and not have garnered any of the words mentioned before to drag around in your life.


To feel better, visualize the future with him...some old doper, the neighborhood "go to guy", still smoken and token as if he were a 16 year old loser and now he's 30, 40, 50. UGH! "Cool" does not come to mind.


Yes there are worse things...but this is about marijuana...it just goes nowhere in its own way.







I don't see a partner's issues with marijuana & the law having much bearing, if any, on ones career advancement. Perhaps if you are looking to be a partner in a firm or something but even thenit would likely not havemuch effect.


It is VERY unlikely thatthe home of a casual user is going to be raided or anything unless they are having parties with a whole lot of the stuff.Law enforcement just is not going to care enough about it. People tend to get caught in automobiles with the stuff but that would be on she/him & not tied to you.


If your partner is selling it then I do see the possibility of harm.


I think that you overestimate the risk involved here.
- May 3rd, 2009, 10:23 pm
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Yes it is a deal breaker because anyone who uses has his primary relationship with pot and not with you. They are loyal to their drug and it is like being a third wheel your own relationship.
As much as I've tried to open my mind. I think anyone that uses it daily or very frequently, indeed, makes pot the priority and its their primary relationship.


You will be the third wheel, unless you fully accept and participate. But I'm not sure where that gets you.
- May 4th, 2009, 05:06 am
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I can understand this being a deal breaker for you're a typical conservative. For me its the complete opposite! Most people who hate on the ganja more than likely don't know a damn thing about what medical research has shown. Factspeople, look at the FACTS. Its the hypocrytical/brainwashing/political figures that give the hemp plant a bad name. Don't get me wrong, although I sound like a pothead right now(I'm NOT)I do believe that too much of ANY one thing...has got to be a bad thing. However, for the open-minded risk takersout there, spark up and start "slowing downtime" to enjoy God's gift to the WORLD.


Love, Peace, Harmony (i'm not a hippy I swear!)


Well put! I believe that moderation in all things is the better course of action.


It is better to rise from life as from a banquet--neither thirsty nor drunken.


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- May 4th, 2009, 09:19 am
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I dont have a problem with this, as long as its not a priority for getting high all the time, and they still have the qualities that I want and need in a person. Just make sure it doesnt take over the realtionship or let alone their life, but all in all its not a big deal.

- July 8th, 2009, 07:53 pm
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bigfincat wrote :
I don't see a partner's issues with marijuana & the law having much bearing, if any, on ones career...People tend to get caught in automobiles with the stuff but that would be on she/him & not tied to you...I think that you overestimate the risk involved here.
I think getting caught with your partner's stash in a vehicle is a valid concern, if you share cars and if you work in a field like medicine where your license to practice would be suspended or even revoked if you are arrested for possession. I have a classmate who lost her license over one DUI -- California is very strict.

As a single mom, I would never knowingly risk my medical license by dating someone who regularly used pot. If it's a daily habit, then he could have an addictive personality -- perhaps the tip of the iceberg. But the real issue for me would be jeapardizing my kids' future. I would consider it irresponsible parenting.

Sure, the chances of having your car searched (traffic accident, speeding, tail-light malfunction, checkpoint, etc.) with your bf's stash in your car isn't great. Not a risk I'd wish to underestimate. So, it's a deal-breaker for me.
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- July 9th, 2009, 01:55 am
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marajuna use should be a deal breaker if you are against it. All I ask is that you don't forget medical marajuna and in other cases like old time pot-heads. I'll take a pot-head over a drinker any day.....
- July 9th, 2009, 02:35 am
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Dealbreaker for me - as would any form of smoking. I just don't like smoke, period... but conceptually, I'm not sure if an occasional joint is much different than drinking alcohol.
- July 9th, 2009, 02:39 am
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No, has long as she doesn't give herself or me in trouble with the law because of it all is good. I have smoked pot a few times, never got high from it for whatever reason, and haven't done it sense. I think it should be legal; however, my fear is getting a random drug test and losing my job over a joint. Also, if she had it in my car and I got stopped and they found it it would be problematic for me. If she wants to smoke pot with her buddies or at HER place that is HER business. I wouldn't mind her smoking around me but I am not sure I would take a drag as again I have a good job now that I don't want to lose.
- July 9th, 2009, 11:22 am
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Dealbreaker; enough said in my opinion.

- October 7th, 2009, 04:37 pm
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