Wouldn't it be nice if people would just mind their own? Honestly, I'm not a smoker, nor am I a drinker but I don't go around making assumptions about those people out there who are. Personally, so long as those people smoke on their own time and don’t put others in danger by driving or operating machinery while under the influence of marijuana, then I don’t give a flying rat’s @$$, and neither should you. It’s not your life, they’re not hurting you. In fact, if you’ve never “associated with druggies” or tried it yourself, then you are the exact definition of ignorant and are probably more damaging to the American gene pool than pot heads. Try cleaning up your own sorry life before judging others.

not a deal braker


alcoholics are way worse.


it should be legal and available to adults.

Yes it is a deal breaker because anyone who uses has his primary relationship with pot and not with you. They are loyal to their drug and it is like being a third wheel your own relationship.

I married a regular pot smoker 14 years ago. If I could change it I would of never married him.Hes 40 and acts like he 17, forgetful,horrible cough. He has mood swings constantly and everytime I find it andflush it ,he just buys more. Itsthe other woman in ourrelationship,definatelysteer clear ofpot smokers...

I don't judge others if they want to smoke marijuana, but I know that it is something that I don't want to have in my life. On my online dating profiles I have actually listed it as one of the deal-breakers, if a man smokes pot. Again, make your own choices, but I choose to not be around it, not only for my self, but its also a choice that I want my children to see that I make.


I actually started dating a very nice guy, with a successful career, who said that he did not use drugs, when I asked him before our first date. During a casual conversation after our first few dates he indicated that he did smoke pot recreationally, with some of his friends, and it was something he planned to continue. I was a bit dismayed because I consider pot a drug! We did not have another date after that.

In regards to marijuana users. If it's for medicinal purposes I can understand and I don't mind if the person does is casually and in moderation but "pot heads" no way. I have dated a couple of pot heads in the past and some of those stereotypes were true in both cases. I have never seen anyone sleep so much in my life! I was bored out of my mind. I don't smoke nor drink, if others do well that's their decision but when it comes to dating I will never attempt a long term relationship with a pot abuser again.

• Are you willing to date someone who is a regular marijuana user?

Cerrtainly, in fact I would prefer to.

• If so, how much is too much? Are you fine with the weekend toker? The “I only smoke if offered” casual user?

Too much is when it affects your ability to conduct your own personal business in your life. Occasionally, weekends, or even daily is fine, as long as that person continues to fulfill their obligations and lead their lives in a safe, productive way.

• What is it about marijuana use that makes it a deal breaker for you? Is it the stereotype that pot smokers are lazy? Is it the illegality? Do you believe that it is a gateway drug?

If the person I'm dating is intolerant or opposed to the use of cannabis, that's a dealbreaker for me. I am insulted and offended by the sterotype that pot smokers are lazy, good for nothing people. The only plausible argument why cannabis could be a gateway drug is because of the fact that it is illegal, and illegal drug dealers often push all kinds of drugs, many of which are extremely harmful in comparison. If cannabis were legal, the only gateway it could possibly open up would be to overeating!

• What if the marijuana is for medicinal purposes? Is that okay?

Absolutely, it is so beneficial to so many people with a variety of terrible conditions. In fact, I believe it's a crime that it's NOT available to anyone who could stand to benefit from it, because prohibition violates their right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

• If you are a marijuana smoker, when do you share these details in a new relationship?

It's really hard to decide when to. On the one hand, you want to get it over with quick and not have the question weighing on you, and not spend money on lots of dates, only for her to later drop you like a wet sock the moment it comes out. On the other hand, you want to give her time to appreciate who you are and see if a good dynamic develops between the two of you, before raising such a controversial subject and seriously rocking the boat. And you never mention it before you ask kind of work she does first, just to make sure that she's not a cop!