I dated a guy for a while who smoked pot. I was shocked because he knows I'm in the military and if I get caught with anything in my system during a UA I could be administratively separated. I asked him not to smoke around me, but he lit up anyway. I left and we ended. It's not a relationship that I miss, but I felt disrespected. I don't like pot, but after that, I will never date a guy who smokes pot. I was willing to give him a shot, but he ruined it for anyone. I won't sacrifice my career for someone's recreational habit when there are plenty of other things to do for fun in this worldthat doesn'tinvolve impairingjudgment.
wether he realized it or not...he was disrespecting you.
I would close a match if there was a lot of evidence of that up front as it says a lot about priorities. It's one thing if you have smoked pot or even if you do sometimes. It's quite another, if you feel it's so important that your profile is filled with references to your habit. I did close a match recently whose first open question to me was an oblique reference to whether I'd smoked pot. To me, that question (and the other weird one he asked) indicated his priorities and mine would not line up well.
I would close a match if there was a lot of evidence of that up front as it says a lot about priorities. It's one thing if you have smoked pot or even if you do sometimes. It's quite another, if you feel it's so important that your profile is filled with references to your habit. I did close a match recently whose first open question to me was an oblique reference to whether I'd smoked pot. To me, that question (and the other weird one he asked) indicated his priorities and mine would not line up well.
That's a personal space invasion to me too...sort of like being asked how much money do you make. I think any question or comment that makes you feel uncomfortable/weird/creepy/odd etc, needs to be looked at a little deeply...preferably from a distance.
duh, its not being self righteous, its JUST RIGHT!!HELLOOOOOO!!
what part of illegal dont people get,
wahhhwahhh, i cant cope in life, i have anxiety, i cant calm down, i need to calm down, so im gonna smoke some weed, lol, lol, lol.Im laughing my a**at people who cant deal with life and need to be codepedent on crap, and have no motivation or excuses, waahhhh!
theres always gonna be idiots who will sugar coat the use and be well defended when its comes to drugs.GO GET SOME F**N XANAX IF CANT DEAL WITH LIFE, GROW THE f8UP!!people who smoke it are white trash losers!!!!!!!!!!!hahahahaha
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I live in a city in CA that is very liberal about pot use. I don't think it should warrant arrest unless they are growing massive amounts. Medical marijuana use does help cancer patients. Other than that, occassional use (ie once a month) wouldn't bother me. However, if it's a vice for that person or a coping mechanism, I will not tolerate it. I have seen those results and it mainly creates a lot of anger and trust issues.
Honestly, I've seen someone punch a man strait in the face for absolutely no reason while they were drunk. The only illegal act that pot smoking will bring is a line of conveniant stores being robbed of all of their twinky's.
I just recently broke things off with my boyfriend of 5 months because of chronic marijuana use. I believe that people who uses pot regularly live in a fantasy land and tend to take things lightly. I do not believe that chronic drug use is the answer to dealing with problems.
I'm a daily user. Unfortunately I live in NY where it's still highly illegal. I use it to combat rage, ocd, depression and insomnia. I get up for work on time (usually have to be at work for 6a), and I function fine. I can maintain a healthy social life, while also spending time with myself when I have the need. It doesn't effect my life like it would a "pothead", but according to some standards, because I am a daily user (even though I use it for medicinal purposes) I am concidered a pothead.
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